Have you ever liked someone but walked away?

[Anonymous]

Why?

[Anonymous]

I had to get it into my head that I didn’t really like him, just the idea of him. He was one of my dearest friends and nearly every one of our mutual friends thought we would be great together. And it made sense; our personalities fit, we had the same values, I was good friends with everyone in his family, his mom would have made an excellent mother-in-law, and so many other things I could list.
But he wasn’t interested, and even if he were, he wasn’t ready for a relationship with anyone.
It stinks, but that’s just how it is sometimes. I was ready, and he wasn’t, and that alone was why it wasn’t a good match.

[Drew-1990]

Yes but it took longer than it should have for me to get to that point.

[Asker]

I understand. Sorry 😞

[Drew-1990]

It's ok, it was a long time ago and honestly I did it to myself I should have figured out way sooner to get over her

[OlderAndWiser]

Read all about it!

Two Days Ago, I Closed A Chapter In My Life

[Asker]

Omg. So awful. I’m so sorry!! Have you found new love?

[OlderAndWiser]

Yes. I broke up with Ivy in 2017, I dated a number of women, had one bed short term relationship, them I met Helen in December 2020. I proposed in March 2023 and we are getting married on April 27, 2024. She is the best woman I have ever known. We have lived together for 2½ years and our home is very loving and peaceful. We occasionally have disagreements but there is no screaming, name calling, throwing things, filing false police reports, etc. We take a few minutes away from the conflict, then talk and resolve it, and we go to sleep holding each other.

[Asker]

Beautiful!! Happy for you. Congratulations!

[OlderAndWiser]

Thank you! NEVER give up on finding love!

[exitseven]

@OlderAndWiser It would truly take a heart of stone not to shed a tear.

[OlderAndWiser]

@exitseven My final take was that Ivy did not have any improper motivations at all, and she was not consciously trying to use me, but she as simply incapable of loving anyone in a selfless manner. . . and I think she will probably spend her final years very much alone.

In the meanwhile, as much as the experience hurt me, I learned from it, and I eventually found my Miss Helen, who satisfies me in all the quiet moments of my life.

[exitseven]

@OlderAndWiser I am happy for you. You seem like a good guy.

[OlderAndWiser]

@exitseven I am just a normal guy trying to be a better man.

[exitseven]

@OlderAndWiser yes, me too.

[OlderAndWiser]

Thanks for MHO!

[Anonymous]

Yes, because I realized she loved me more than I loved myself.

[Asker]

Ugh. That’s a tough one!! 😔

[Anonymous]

Many times. Because there was no point in continuing. I know my worth. I'd rather be single then give and get little to nothing back.

[Asker]

Very true. It’s exhausting to give more than you receive.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yea, people that have been in the friend zone know this is what needs to be done