Guys, have you ever liked a girl but never told her or made a move?

[Anonymous]

Just curious...

[Anonymous]

If I had a dollar for every time this happened I would imagine Id have about 30 dollars, and I wish I was kidding. I am so freaking shy that unless the girl blatantly tells me, or my friends set me up with a girl there is absolutely zero chance I will make a move. I used to try and force myself to do it, but then I would just get sweaty, and stutter, and red in the face, and then afterwards I would subconsciously pick myself apart for all the little things I did wrong, and usually halfway through making a move I would abort because I felt so horrendous and I felt like the girl just wasn't interested. So I would suspect this has happened with around 30 girls, each year since 7th grade I have been interested in probably an average of about 3 or 4 girls. Seeing as that was about 8 years ago, I probably have liked between 24 and 32 girls but never made the move. Half of the problem is that sometimes I am interested in multiple girls at once, since I have really low standards. Basically if the girl talks to me and is nice then there is probably a good chance I will like her, I always kept hoping that one of the girls I liked would approach me and make the move but shockingly in 8 years thats never happened once, so not surprisingly I am now I am 21 and still single.

[Yeahhbro]

oh man, many times, specially now with a girl at work :(. This girl drives me nuts, i like her so much, but to be honest i don't think she likes me or if she does she is very good hiding and playing hard to get which sucks, because i have no idea where to go or what to do and trust me i usually know what to do, but this girl is just too aloof for me.

We used to talk and now we don't, because i came in too fast with her, i was too intense for her and now she will never know how much i like her.

:(

[teawrecks]

Everyone has done this at least once in their lives, and they're filthy liars if they say they haven't.

[Anonymous]

Yes, that is the case. I'd say that for every woman I asked out or dated, there were 10 such as in your question. Mostly it's because you know you have no chance, or you moved too slowly in showing your intentions, or you mangled it, or her friends cock-blocked a lot of men and you saw this repeatedly. One time it was because my roommate in college was in love with her and knew her first, but honestly they had really no connection except as platonically. She and I did, but I just killed it, due to the bro code of first dibs. They never wound up together, and last I heard she had been with and married this really silly guy who called her 'wuzzy', and they wore these really immature matching pajamas and stuff. I think I'm better off not having done a thing, if that is her true self!

[AnonKuma]

FACTS, #MYLIFE I was scared and lots of other guys are scared of rejection or the awkward tension that may be there.
What comes after it? What do I do? etc etc all these questions lul.
However, there was this one time that I told a girl that I liked her. Ofc I was rejected, but afterwards she kept it chill and always kept talking to me and keeping it cool so I thought that was pretty nice and not that scared anymore of confessing anymore.

[Anonymous]

HELL YES!! In fact, I'm currently in this situation I wanted to test the waters first, and I ended up not doing anything because I thought she might not like me, she could have a boyfriend... etc and it becomes an embarrassing situation so I ended up not doing anything and I think I missed my chances of telling her but it won't matter it SUCKS to be in this situation.

[Words_and_Wisdom]

All the time. I actually made a take all about it.
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a9876-why-you-women-don-t-get-approached-or-asked-out

[aficionado]

Yeah, so many times! Due to my morbid fear of rejection and insecurities about my looks, I have asked only ONE woman out in my life until now, and didn't make a move on several others whom I liked! :P

[Alayio]

what made you ask that one woman?

[aficionado]

She actually 'tricked' me into asking her out, although she was predetermined to reject me. She just needed an ego boost, apparently.

[Mark16]

All the damn time and it's so annoying cuz I would make up a plan and decide to go and tell her and talk to her about it and I'm always to chicken to do anything about it and carry out with my plan. :/

[sexytsigurl]

Yesterday, well Monday, it was the last day I was going to be in a group with this guy. There was a girl in our group, but the guy and myself talked like there wasn't anyone around. I couldn't stand the thought of not talking to him ever again, even after class will end. We all exchanged numbers if we wanted to work on the project. On Monday, I was going to tell him that I think he's cool and if he ever wants to hang out just shoot me a text. Of course it was the one time he was late for class. Then, he waited for me like he normally did so we could walk together, but his friends talked to him about the project. I was like, really? Of all the days. But I said screw it and I texted him. He ended up texting me back in ten minutes saying he enjoyed working with me too and about the hanging out, he said for sure. I still can't believe I did it, but I'm happy I did.

[Ruskie]

Yeah. All the time. Guys get shy too. I'm just saying if u really like a guy u might have to approach him sometimes. It may not be the perfect scene in ur head. But some guys may never approach u...

[serious]

Well, I have never liked a woman, however yes it's possible for a guy to like a woman but will tell her anything or will never make a move, yes guys can do that and they have their reasons.

[LorcaNovena]

Yes I have, I have not asked women out in the past because I was too nervous and shy, scared of rejection, scared of commitment etc.

[HikerDude]

Sure, plenty of times. If I feel like I'm going to be rejected or that I'm not emotionally ready for a relationship, I'll hang back. Usually it's a fear of rejection more than anything.

[pathetic-dude]

Used to be a girl I liked for years but she always had a boyfriend so I never got a chance. She's married now.

[DarkHumorRUs]

I've never told a girl I liked her. I'm planning to as soon as I get a new car though.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, of course. No one teaches us how.

Brave guys experiment and fail and learn when young. Then the other guys either never get girls -- ever -- or they learn PUA to get dates in their later years.

[mr90skid]

Guilty smh man the what if feelings make reminiscing less enjoyable if you're not over it

[Sean_is_Awesome]

All the time, but I don't want to date yet, so I avoid it, and I'm happy I do, but I will start dating or will if I see someone I like when I finish high school

[Ihav2fart]

Sure, my last huge infatuation with a girl irl. She knew and we had the feels for each other at different times. It didn't work out.

[MikeyTheRebel]

Plenty of times. As a matter of fact, that's me currently...

[ConsultantIsBack]

Ya in high school when I was shy and timid all the time!!

[CountVronsky]

Yes, pretty much every girl I have liked until now.

[RichardTheFrog]

Yea all the time...

Many times, I don't even realize I like them until they're gone...

[super_shy]

tons of times, story of my life.

[bluenose1872]

Practically every day since I was waist high

[tyber1]

That's what usually happens

[OrangeBoy]

Yeap... and that's a stupid thing to do.

[Anonymous]

Yes, at least 10 girls my entire life (I'm 21)

[Maxemeister]

Yeah that's me right now with 4 girls

[Yumix]

Yes, more than once... I'm quite shy :(

[Lonewolf_1296]

Yes, pretty much 99% of the time.

[Skydas]

Yep. Luckily she made the move on me :P

[kiler1000]

long story short, biggest mistake.

[AleDeEurope]

Yes I have.

[TheGuyFromMiddleEast]

Yeah, of course.

[Hercules073]

Many times.

[Anonymous]

All the time :)