Questions: Relationships

Sometimes - hopefully, not very often - a lady needs to be defended in a physical sense. Perhaps a drunk is trying to accost her or some legend-in-his-own-mind romeo is trying to get too familiar with her. Sometimes, a woman is insulted and her honor needs to be protected. Some guys are ready to step in and do whatever they can to defend you and some guys run from the challenge. Have you ever had this experience?

I first met her in the first day and as a we talk I fell more to her, we talked eachother from school and outside school until one month later I told her I like her directly, she then told me she has a boyfriend, after that I accepted it that she has a boyfriend and we still communicate until one day my brother maliciously meddled in by saying things that I wasn't doing against her, she believed it and confronted me about it which fortunately I was able to fix the understanding but at what cost is her ignoring me after all of it, I do not know what to do even now I cannot trust my families judgement and actions due to how they are trying to fucked up my image from my whole friend circle which eventually led to this unfortunate circumstances. What should I do?

We are both white and she told me today that she wants to move to a whiter and nicer area somewhere in UTAH because “it’s too brown” where we live. When I told her if she thought that was racist, she told me that it wasn’t about race but more so about relating to her coworkers and everyone because she says she gets along better with other white people and feels more comfortable with other white people.