Polls: Relationships

Not allowed to say both. Lean more towards one.

My wife is amazing and beautiful and I love her. I’ve always had a weird fetish that I find bold eye makeup on women so crazy sexy. In Chat GPT I keep creating photos of my wife all glammed up with sexy makeup. I get so crazy turned on doing it and looking at the photos. My wife doesn’t do more than basic skin makeup and I don’t think she knows how to.
Is my behavior creepy or hot? Should I tell her? Please comment on should I tell her.

I keep seeing people say that even in a committed relationship, your phone should be off-limits because "everyone deserves privacy."

But honestly, if you have nothing to hide, why does it matter? If my partner wants to see my messages, I’d let them—because I have zero secrets. To me, being "protective" over a passcode feels like a huge red flag.

Guys and Girls:

Do you think total transparency is the standard, or is a "private phone" a basic right?
Would you give your partner your passcode right now if they asked?

I think it takes a bigger toll on women since they put more emotions into them.

Most of my life, I've never thought i wanted kids cause I barely wanted friends. Looking at relationships I had, which isn't many, just 3.

All long term, but only 1 mentioned wanting kids. She did for a time, open me to it but infidelity on her part led to our relationship ending a little shy of a year.

Now as I try to pave a path forward for myself, I still have to juggle with the problem that male CF patients born in the late 1990s only live 40, maybe 45 years. And I'm 26 now, and way behind the curve to due bad decisions I've made in my life.

This combined with my status as being single makes children a laughable proposition. I can't imagine myself ever ready to handle responsibilities of being a parent. My longevity is a serious consideration as well as me being behind in life.

So I'm gonna lean towards best case scenario, I've got a wife with me when my time ends. And that is what I want most, a spouse. But what my last relationship proved is I'm somewhat amenable, if I love the woman. In that this children issue would not turn into some ultimatum.

I know better than to do something that moronic when the relationship is that special. I'd just have to allow our motivation for eachother to succeed to get me to where I feel ready to take that next step. Do you want kids?

By sleeping with another woman, you will experience emotions you have never felt before. If you felt guilty, you will realise that you truly love your girl and she is the one. If you didn't feel the guilt, the answer you have been ignoring and resisting will get clear.

Agree or disagree?