Polls: Relationships

When I’m on YouTube especially, I run into videos talking about how people should not be single because they will be lonely, depressed and that they will regret being life long singles and that the purpose of humanity is to marry and have kids.

They say women who are single are being lied to by feminism which is toxic because it tells women to focus on working hard and not on settling down and having a family.

Personally I feel like we all have a choice and also we all have different fates some of us were born to be single for the long haul, others were born to marry or having kids etc. Also, science has literally debunked the myth that single people are depressed and unhappy by proving that it is very possible to be happy and healthy as a single person.

Anyone can be happy it has nothing to do with your relationship status or if whether you have kids or not. Also if you listen to other people instead of doing what you want you’ll definitely be unhappy.

You will be happy though if you go after what you want in life and accept your fate with open arms and see the bright side of it be it single-hood, marriage or having kids. Because everything has a bright side in life, even though there are cons in every situation there are also pros in every situation.

would you date someone that speaks Thai or italin

I’m not asking this question to condone cheating or infidelity I’m only asking it to see if whether this happens or not.

Is it a turn off or a turn on for you?

When a guy cheats it's safe to assume he probably did, so it's easy to dump him.

But when a girl cheats you don't really know, does it matter?

1. Words of affirmation
People with words of affirmation as a love language value verbal acknowledgments of affection, including frequent "I love you's," compliments, words of appreciation, verbal encouragement, and often frequent digital communication like texting and social media engagement.

2. Quality time
People whose love language is quality time feel the most adored when their partner actively wants to spend time with them and is always down to hang out. They particularly love when active listening, eye contact, and full presence are prioritized hallmarks in the relationship.

3. Acts of services
If your love language is acts of service, you value when your partner goes out of their way to make your life easier. It's things like bringing you soup when you're sick, making your coffee for you in the morning, or picking up your dry cleaning for you when you've had a busy day at work.

4. Gifts
Gifts is a pretty straightforward love language: You feel loved when people give you "visual symbols of love," as Chapman calls it. It's not about the monetary value but the symbolic thought behind the item. People with this style recognize and value the gift-giving process: the careful reflection, the deliberate choosing of the object to represent the relationship, and the emotional benefits from receiving the present.

5. Physical touch
People with physical touch as their love language feel loved when they receive physical signs of affection, including kissing, holding hands, cuddling on the couch, and sex. Physical intimacy and touch can be incredibly affirming and serve as a powerful emotional connector for people with this love language. The roots go back to our childhood, Motamedi notes, some people only felt deep affection and love by their parents when they were held, kissed, or touched.

For instance, and this is just me... I can start getting into a very deep mental or verbal conversation with myself, ask the questions, answer the questions... from my point of view and a third perspective. (Espesically if I smoke weed)

As crazy as it sounds, these are some very useful conversations to have... With yourself!!

They bring clarity, perspective, judgment, and doubt.. forcing you to make rational decisions. Ones that you may have not thought of, or chosen before. Growing, as a person.

I could have done a whole My Take on this subject, to be honest... But I'm not high enough, and in too much pain (maybe I will/should?)

Anyway, let me know what you think... I think this subject is not only fascinating but has so many layers!!

Much love

If you look at the number of single people with pet cats or dogs, or the number of single woman who choose to adopt or use fertility treatments, or the number of men who own pet cobras or do volunteer work, I believe the ability to love somebody else is just as important as the desire to be loved by somebody else. I know if I did not have people to love during the pandemic, I would not have been as motivated as I was to build my career and there is a chance I may not have built a career at all. Maybe I would have relied entirely on my parents for future income through what they leave me in the will, or what my millionaire cousins give me, but my obsession with being able to have my own family drove me to build my own career.