How do you support each other's personal growth and individual interests while in a long-distance relationship?

[Jasmineww]

Set aside time to talk and catch up on each other's lives regularly, even if it's just a quick phone call or video chat every day. This helps to build a strong foundation of communication and understanding.

Encourage and support each other's interests and pursuits, even if they're not shared. Your partner is an important part of your life, and it's important to show interest in what they're doing and what's important to them.

Schedule regular in-person visits or virtual date nights to maintain a strong connection and enjoy each other's company. This can also help to make the long-distance aspect of the relationship feel more manageable.

Be open and honest about any feelings of missing each other or feeling disconnected. Communication is key, and it's important to address any concerns or issues early.

[zeitgeist057]

I've maintained multiple long distance relationships, the longest is currently over 10 years now. The caveat to this is I am non-monogamous, so YMMV.

My counterparts have specifically said they feel supported, and from my perspective, I also feel supported. It doesn't take a whole lot, tbh. Being a good listener goes a long way, which can be easy if you can keep your own mind and mouth from running wild. I was on a 3 hour call yesterday, and I left my end of the phone on mute for probably close to 50% of it (I was out running errands and the music in the grocery store or other ambient sounds were confusing my bluetooth mic and making my partner's voice cut in and out). Paying attention goes a long way.

I should also add a 3 hour call is not our every day routine. We haven't talked for more than a few minutes in about a week. I disagree with the "talk or text every day" answer. I believe time and space are good for relationships. It's nice to let the other person go out in the world and discover things and grow on their own, then you meet up and compare notes. One of the detriments I had in a long term attached-at-the-hip relationship where we did everything together every day was that nothing was new. Nothing was a surprise. Everything we did, we did together, so there were no exciting "oh, I have news to share with you that you know nothing about!" moments. It was all "guess what happened yesterday? oh never mind, you were there."

Being honest, open, supportive, these are easy to say and easy to do, but they can also be elusive. It also depends a lot on how your partner receives your support. I do think people often make the mistake of talking when they could be listening, a mistake I have often made myself.

[Sexiestjohnson]

Personally, I think the long distance thing is flawed. Too many depressing sides to it. Also you've got to be okay with solo sex for it to flow right.


Life can't be that cruel to throw the love of my life away from my arms. Adam never had to search that hard. Abraham too. And all the biblical Alphas.

[msc545]

People in Biblical times didn't have cars or airplanes or powered boats.

[Sexiestjohnson]

You would want to Believe that but it is false. All that man will ever need already existed before man was made.

There are technologies, this world doesn't know about and they call it Bicycle Technology. It is mechanical. The cheapest and most affordable, yet the most efficient. Planes, better than you've known existed before you the first man ever came.

[midnightmoon05]

All the above is a must.
however … without the next 3 …it will not work.
1. have time and money to see each other every 2 weeks or so. By taking turn to visit each otherz

2. trust, commitment towards each ither

3. close the gap by moving to end the LD.

any of the 3 fail…it’s not going to work

I met my husband on gag, we did LD for 5-6 years.
married 2 years. we cleared up a lot of misunderstandings and it’s working very well now
good luck.

[Nikki1989]

You can't really. The distance kills any chance of that happening.

[coachTanthony]

Always talk about the plan of who is going to move YOU or ME. That conversation is always lacking.

[DizzyDesii]

We would talk on the phone daily, morning/noon/night. We’d video chat on Friday nights. We’d enjoy about a week in person together every few months. For the most part, we supported one anothers interests and helped eachother to grow. But he didn't like how much I gambled and I didn't like how much he gamed. Still, communication was key and worked for an incredibly long while. It went downhill once we started having disagreements and chose to confide in others for emotional support instead

[DizzyDesii]

Also the morning calls were usually about 30 mins between 6a-8a while getting dressed but if one of us had to wake before the other, we’d talk during our lunch break around 11a-12n instead. Then we’d talk for an hour after work/school. Around 3p-4p. Then we’d go off and do our thing again and talk again at night from 10p til we fell asleep on the phone together. Then we’d wake up on the phone together the next day

[RHK36]

As best as you can. Most important thing is communication is solid and frequent. Also even more important is realizing that LDR have a shelf life. One has to move closer or eventually the relationship will fall apart. Without that physical presence it won't work.

[BoopBoopBeep]

All of the above really, movie night where we'd go to the theater at similar times, see the same movie... stuff like that. We talked 5 days a week though, even if it was 4am when I was getting up and only for 3 minutes to say goodnight to her.

[Anonymous]

there will ALWAYS be a disconnect when dealing with long distance. it's why they never last... support from far away will look COMPLETELY different than support close by. everyone wants the close by support...

[Adam1978]

You can't in a good way which is why you don't do distant relationship for long. They should be very temporary if they should exist at all.

[Phoenix98]

Same way you would if you were closer, could be A, B, C or D or all of the above depending on the person.

[genericname85]

by continually and regulalry communicating in an effort to keep a mutual vision of the future together.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Communication by phone calls, text messages, talk on video phone calls, etc.

[msc545]

We saw each other once a month and just fucked each other silly when we did.

[Christoff92]

Sending sexy pictures and videos to each otherc🤗🥰

[KrakenAttackin]

What is the point of a LDR? If you can't be together find someone else.

[Anonymous]

You don't. Someone close to them is taking care of that.

[Saddie_Girl]

Communication isn't just about talking but about understanding each other.

[TenderFantasy]

I don't do long distance.

[Juxtapose]

You really need all of the above.

[jpeter79]

She usually puts it in her mouth

[Anonymous]

Seems like most of those options