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I've always known that most women have a natural fear of men, especially if they are strangers. Men are stronger and usually more capable of inflicting physical harm & rape. That sure as hell doesn't mean that men will automatically do that. The vast majority of us would never even think of doing that. That even includes hitting a woman back when they hit us first (which is bullshit but that's another post).

But I can remember breaking up with my ex girlfriend a year ago. We were on the rocks and I had to come by her place to get my bicycle that was stored there. I also had to return some of her items. I expected to hear something bad from her that day (i. e. breakup) because things weren't going well the 2 weeks earlier.

Earlier in the week I asked her what would be a good time to stop by her place. She told me a specific time on the weekend. When I got there her roommate and her boyfriend were there. We were cordial but then my girlfriend said "hey Joey lets go for a walk". I then asked her roommate & her boyfriend if they wanted the living room door open or closed. I had noticed that the door was open when I got there. The boyfriend said "keep it open!". The tone in his voice was telling. My soon to be ex most likely told her roommate to be around when I came by. Her roommate likely invited her boyfriend over to just KEEP AN EYE on me. Just having three people look at me like I was a scumbag was a really awkward, embarrassing and shitty situation.

Now I had never once been violent, abusive or threatening with my ex girlfriend while we dated. Ever. I did get angry with her a few times but I never raised by voice. It's also not like I showed up to her doorstep unexpectedly.

Anyway above might not be the best example. However I remember feeling extremely insulted that she probably went to that extent (making sure her roommate and her boyfriend were around) because she was scared of how I would react even though I never gave her reason to think otherwise.

since my high school days, all my male friends and relatives have been telling me that women who just want to fuck are never picky. that I should not worry about things like their personality, mental state, and many other things that you should worry about in dating because supposedly all they want to do is FUCK.

however not only does this sound too damn good to be true but I have met a lot of women who are completely the opposite of what I just said above. not only do so many women out there believe that sex is an automatic precursor to a relationship but. there are lots of women who do hookups but often times have ulterior motives. they will fuck all night with you but then want to cling on to you the following day and beyond. along the way, they will even feel entitled to get something out of you such as calling you nonstop whenever they feel needy all because you had sex with them. even worst they will even run to the authorities and file false rape alligations on you when they feel like you never met their demand.

till then I now double-check women twice or more before I ever get into a hookup thanks to what I've mentioned above. but I was wondering, am I still wrong? are my friends right?