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I'm on the the heels of a horrible break up from a relationship I never really wanted to be in anyway.

I'm sore but well on the mend.

This whole thing has been going on for about 6 months.

Long story short, on my street is a really popular and vibrant restaurant. There are a ton of wait staff there, all male.

There are a couple that would kind of scope me out but I felt it was curiosity since I am fairly mysterious.

One server in particular has pathetically, IMHO, tried to get my attention when I would pass by by clearing his throat.

Once he decided to stare and not look away.

I don't jump to these silent cat calls.

He's tried to smile at me and stuff but I've been stoic because he is a smoker and I am judging him. I'll be honest.

Fast forward, I have started getting takeout there from time to time. When I walk in, some of the kitchen staff will look at him when I come in.

I purposely look away and I see him in my peripheral vision staring at me.

When I was waiting for my order, all he could do was stand really close to me when he was ringing in his table and I was ordering take out.

I caught him once staring, he looked away so fast and swallowed so hard. He was so embarrassed.

Th other evening a friend of mine treated me and we ate there.

We were seated at the back. He kept coming to the back sneaking looks at us. He works the patio.

My friend ordered some takout and we were waiting for it on the patio. He came to take our order and went straight up to me. My friend then explained we were just waiting for take out. He smiled and left.

Then he stood at the top of the stairs so he could totally see and hear us but he was pretend not watching.

We both pretend to ignore each other, actually.

I am just still reeling from all the recent emotional abuse and I feel this push-pull behaviour is a sign he is another immature, undercover narc looking for attention from someone he views as vulnerable.

Poll below!

When you first meet initially before dating

-dont ask qs about you
-never saying thank you
-yelling at you and not apologising even if you made it clear you were upset
- turned an offer down to walk with you
-getting someone else to ask you about something we arranged even though she had plenty of time to do it herself
-not going to your party even if she mentioned she was away a month earlier it might have been a coincidence
-not sending a message first before adding as a friend on fb

I met a guy online who told me he stayed on dating sites for 3 years. He told me he never had sex with anyone except for one girl three years ago. He travelled all the way to my city for four hours just to meet me.

When I first met him, I did pull away, but then he tried to prove that not all men are the same. He didn't force me to have sex with him. But then he told me something that somehow scared me—he doesn't want to commit. I did not bother to think about it and just had a good time with him. We shared a lot of talks, fun, and walks. We were both happy and just sending out positive vibes until we had sex together.

After the two days we spent together, he said he had to leave me to visit his friend "girl" in another city, which is 30 minutes away. I was curious about it, but he said she is just a family friend, and they have been friends for many years and are very close. Her family is already his family. He stayed there for three days, and I did not bother to overthink it.

We still communicated together right after he left, and we have been calling and texting each other for three weeks now, getting to know each other better. He eventually told me that he wanted to get serious about me; he sent a lot of kiss and hug emoticons. We become more comfortable with each other.

Now, he told me he wants to drop by to see me in the city next week. I asked him, "Where are you going?" He said to his friend, "Girl," again for two days, but his ultimate goal is to meet me.

I felt uncomfortable and scared if he was telling the truth, and I somehow doubted that this girl could be his girlfriend or fling. I pulled away again from him, even if it did hurt me a lot, and said I needed space.

Now my question is, do I need advice on whether I shouldn't be jealous of this friend's "girl" OR should I be suspicious and cautious of this guy?

It can happen to anyone. Sometimes the unexpected happens at visitations and funerals (after all, the first three letters in funeral spell fun).

During a Wednesday evening visitation, I walked into one of our chapels and found a micro mini Highland heifer wandering around making friends with and getting scratched by all the visitors. She was friendly, adorable, very well groomed, and well-behaved. No poop anywhere either (thankfully). She showed up at a side entrance wanting in, so one little boy opened the door and let her in. She was a hit, and brought smiles to a lot of otherwise somber faces. The first thing I thought of was at last, livestock for people like @BigPauly and me.

Someone looked on a Facebook lost pets page and found someone desperately looking for her. Her name is Oprah, she's a pet. She looks like the heifer in the picture, but doesn't have black inside her ear flaps. She got out of her enclosure and wandered about three blocks over. Oprah is now safely back with her family, doing whatever mini-moos do.

What would you do if a mini-moo showed up at one of your functions?