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I’m having a girlfriend for the first time at 32, she’s 42. Due to the fact that she’s my first girlfriend I’m very immature and naive. I think like a 12 year old in terms of romance. I don't know if the good outweighs the bad. So in this question I’m gonna share with you the pro and cons.

Pros
1. Food: always cook for me on her days off. Even took the time to learn my favourite recipes.

2. Budgeting: She’s very smart with her money. We both have over 50k saved up with no debt. We have it planned to buy a house together and pay a low interest rate.

3. Open-minded: I can talker her about almost anything and she’s a good listener.

4. Very sharing: She let me borrow her car for 3 weeks when mine got totalled. Every time she gets bonus pay she’s willing to spend on me.

Cons

1. Has temper: Every time she has to explain something to me a second time she screams me. We end up fighting and not talking for days.

2. Conceited: She believes she so hot that every man in the world wants her. Her exact words “I have a big ass and D cup breasts. Every guy wants me”. Women should be confident but this is ridiculous.

3. Verbal/Emotional abuse: She tells me that I’ve never had a girlfriend because I’m socially awkward & weird. And how I’ll never find anyone better than her. And that the only reason she agreed to date me is because I’m handsome with muscles. And if I stop working out she’ll replace me.

4. Shallow: She refuses to date guys her age and only wants younger men. Nothing wrong with dating younger, but refusing to date your own age is dumb.

5. Male friends: She only has 4 female friends, the rest are guys. She even admitted a couple of them want her. She has a male bestie Alex who she texts almost every day. Whenever Alex has a girlfriend he barely texts her and she gets mad. She agreed not to hang out with guy after I told I’m uncomfortable, she said I’m “just being jealous”.

Is this how a relationship is supposed to be? please give me the best advice with your comments.

I’ve been dating my girlfriend Lucy for a year. Lucy has a lot of good values. She’s smart with her money and has no debt. We’re thinking about getting married in the new year. I’m 33 and she’s 43, so there’s no time waste. But 90% of her friends are male, so only has 3 female friends. Which is kind of strange to me. She’s not a tomboy, these dudes aren’t gay, so why would she be so close to other men? She has a guy friend Alex that she texts a lot. Every time Alex has a girlfriend she doesn’t like his relationship with Lucy. Also, Alex doesn’t text Lucy as often when he’s dating, and Lucy gets pissed that he’s neglected. I wrote about this in another question.

We’ve had arguments about her male friends and she told me that I’m “too jealous”, and that she’ll stop hanging around men for our relationship. She showed me her texts to prove there’s nothing going on with the guys, but I’m still uncomfortable.

On the flip side she hates that my best friend is a 69 year old woman whom I FaceTime once awhile. So how can I accept her guy friends and she doesn’t like me being friends with an elderly woman? She also got mad at me for going a girls apartment with a crowd.

My girlfriend Jocelyn does favours for me even though I tell her not to. The reason I tell her not to is because I feel she does these things for the wrong reason. For example, Jocelyn cooks for even after I’ve told her multiple times not to. She says she does it because she wants me to keep my muscular physic. And that If I stopped working out and got fat she’d leave me.

Jocelyn also a bunch of male friends and it makes me uncomfortable. I know these guys wanna sex with her, she even admitted it. I told her numerous times how I feel. She told me that she’s every guy’s fantasy and I’m just insecure. After having numerous fights over the male friends Jocelyn finally said to me “I’ll stop hanging out with guys, since you’re so jealous”.

For the last 3 weeks things were good. She was telling to come over almost every day, constantly telling me she’s happy, how I’m the one etc. Then 2 days ago everything fell apart. She asked me to walk across the street and buy her food and I accidentally bought her the wrong thing.

She was very angry, and I apologized and told her I’m going back to get the right order. She told me she was too mad to eat and not to bother. Then she started complaining she’s been unhappy with the relationship and starts saying telling me I’m lazy and don’t care about her. I asked her why she’d say such a thing.

Jocelyn starts complaining that I don’t know what she wants, and when she wants it. That I don’t pay attention to her needs. And that she shouldn’t have to ask me to do things for her, I should just know. With that being said haven’t spoken to her in 2 days.