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I saw a guy for a few months back in my early twenties. I settled with him because no one better came around, bad decision hence I should have waited for someone that really met what I was looking for. I was a virgin at the time, he was not. I really tested him with my virginity. I didn’t want to have sex right away, I wanted him to get tested for STDs which he did. After a month in, we finally did have sex but he did say that he wouldn’t have waited if I decided to hold off until marriage. When he visited, he bought almost everything he covered the bill 80+% of the time. But he wasn’t romantic, he made it clear there were times when he was romantic with his exes and he knew I wanted the same type of chivalry. All he did was take me out to dinner for Valentine’s Day. He bought us a cruise package for his birthday but again no romantic gestures, more just taking out his wallet to cover the bare minimum. The other red flag id say is he talked about his exes more than I would have liked, even though he knew I was suspicious of that. He kept on saying that he was over them, he brought them up because he happened to have a lot of his social experiences with them

i just got in a new relationship and all of a sudden my life just seems to be taking a turn for the worse.
my boyfriend is very loving and the best boyfriend i have ever had. we just started dating a month ago.
in just a week of dating, my abusive ex came to my house randomly and started begging me to take him back after it’s been 6 months of being broken up. he sent me gifts and has been emailing me and getting in contact with me however he can.
a week after that, an old classmate/“friend” i had, messaged me on instagram asking me why i told him to never come by again. he sexually assaulted me while i had fallen asleep while studying with him one time.
i told my boyfriend everything because honesty and openness is important to me and he seems to be understanding, he knew that it really bothered me. i am goin through a depressive time right now and i know i have a lot of emotional baggage that i never expected to deal with. he is still in love with me and is there for me… but sometimes i feel so guilty.

would you leave if you dealt with this with your new girlfriend?

Weve been broken up for 7 years and for a while we were still friends on Snap and I posted a lot of what I did. I moved 40 mins away from our hometown which most people from HS dont go there. A few years ago he asked to meet up for lunch and i declined and told him I moved and Im now in (xyz) of our state. He said he has to pass it anyways and could meet me. I declined as I was in a relationship. I moved to Oregon and lived there for a year and sometimes he'd respond to my stories then he started dating someone but kept watching my stories. I moved back to homestate. I started getting training courses for a certain job which you dont need college for. He blocks me on snap but I deleted him on fb and insta because he kept watching my stuff on there. I met up with a friend who he knew 8 years ago from me and she was telling me how shortly after I returned him and his girlfriend moved to Oregon for a year then moved back to homestate and is 16 mins from my old place (xyz). And his girlfriend recently started working a similar job I got my license to, which apparently she apparently has a degree in nursing and this job is polar opposite of her degree. And her job is 3 mins from my old apartment (xyz). He knew I was taking training for this degree and my stomping grounds by my (xyz) place. I don't know it feels like he is following my steps a bit. It's been about a year since he's seen any of my things so maybe it's just a coincidence cause going forward he won't know what I'm up to. I don't post personal things to insta or fb just snap which he blocked me on. I think he's about 3.5 years into his relationship so I don't know. I think he also just recently added my bestie on fb again but not sure she didn't mention, she just decided to tell me all this other stuff