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What's the most common situation? I did my best to give some options in the multiple choice, but feel free to tweak them or express your own in comments. I've closed it to pink only, so speak without fear of being attacked.

Here's What the Men Want/Say:

* Don't say "nothing" if it's not nothing.

* Just talk. Be direct, even blunt about it, if you have to. We'd rather know.

* "State clearly what they want, what their expectations are, what is upsetting them and not expect us to just know." @Miristheiss

* "I try to create a space for them to tell me what the problem is, but am often left guessing and have had to learn to let go. It's unfortunate that a friendship can be so easily ruined by what might have been a complete misunderstanding." @Insightfull

* "I would like to see women express their thoughts, opinions and emotions in the moment without fear of conflict. Men and women can both be guilty of not being vocal with one another before things reach an uncomfortable level which often results in one or both of the individuals involved feeling less appreciated or not respected. Conflict doesn't have to be elevated beyond expressing oneself." @automatic812

* "I think it would help tremendously if... women would kindly notify whenever any new seeds of conflict have sprouted in her head. That way, we can always nip our conflicts in the bud before they ever get the chance to flourish into a garden of quarrels and weaponized intimate details, which would inevitably expand enough to burst out of the woman's mouth at dangerous speeds if we were to ignore it long enough." @DonCachondo

* "Think and speak rationally. Do not retreat into feelings. Do not deflect..." @Dargil

* "Be direct and clear versus expecting guys to “just know” and read their minds or even worse, making us wait until you’re read to talk about something that affects both of us." @Dongtai

What would you like to see females do to better handle conflict?

I know many guys keep female friendships wether they are in a relationship or not just in case there is a chance with one of them.

Not all guys do that but a great number of men do this (keeping friendships for the chance of a possibility with them)

Well I am in a relationship but for some reason or another we had kept breaking up and getting back together. Now he says it's very serious and wants to make a family with me and just be serious with me.

I have one guy friend who said he would marry me, I keep in touch with him and my boyfriend does not know about him, but today it kind of slipped out into a conversation and he got mad with me and wants to know what i talk about with him and why i'm even talking to him in private chats etc. and I felt scared to I deleted and removed everything about this friend because i don't want to ruin what I have now..

but I somehow feel it's wise to still keep him around not cheating but just in case my boyfriend and i split, i have someone as possibility.. I don't like to start from scratch looking for someone and this guy could be back up

it sounds bad but really would you guys do this?
even if it sounds bad, maybe it's a smart thing to do?
I'm not going to talk or flirt with him but just keep him as contact/friend

What do you guys think?
Advice?

i definetely feel like i think about the future a lot, but sometimes i feel like it gets in the way of things i want to do now, and I don't know which part of myself to listen. for instance, i have a lot of goals and things i want to accomplish, the biggest being having a family and raising kids and being able to support them. as a result, i try really hard in school because i want to get into a good college to get a good job. i also try to stay out of trouble so that i dont ruin my chances of a good future. i also avoid relationships because i dont want a guy to get in the way of my set plans for the future.

but at the same time, a little part of me wants to experience hs and just the present in general. im so focused on good grades that i rarely go out and do anything with friends. it also stresses me out a ton and is simply no fun. likewise, i also want a boyfriend. i may have a shot at a relationship rn, but the future-oriented part of me tells me to forget about him! that he's only gonna get in the way of schoolwork, the chances of you even marrying him are slim, so he'll just be a heartbreak and a waste of time, plus its unlikely we will both go to the same college etc etc etc. i just dont know what to do.

if i forget about my future and focus on what makes me happy now, i may regret that in the future if i mess things up, but if i only focus on the future, i might regret that i did nothing fun in my younger years