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The arguments are really bad and when we do fight he says its all my fault. Just to give a general idea of what he says I am messing up, he has said many times that he doesn't like my attitude. Specifically the way I act when I am upset. Often times during fights he'll tell me that he's tired of dealing with my attitude and if I mess up one more time he's leaving me. He doesn't want me to raise my voice or talk back. He's told me in the past not to assume things. In this last argument I was upset because we were spending time together, he wanted to play his xbox. I responded with "do you really have to play it" and the conversation went downhill from there. Ending with him telling me that it all could have been avoided if I'd said yes or no and not extra bs he didn't ask for. That is also another one of the problems, I have to get to the point of the conversation and most times I am expressing my feelings which is considered extra. I have gotten so bad that he told me he wished I was someone else because of how I act. My problem is that at this point I feel sometimes as though im being bullied during the conversations and I cry a lot. Could all of our problems truly be my fault? I hear so many times that it's all my fault and how I mess up and how I need to change because he will change if I fix myself, meaning that if I stop my behavior then there won't be any problems between us. I feel like I have tried but if I do anything wrong then those times I did things right are out of the window. Its happened so many times he's said he's tired of my lies and broken promises. Its been on my mind so I'd really like someone's advice. If I am the one causing everything then I understand. Its just hard to see the truth when you're inside the relationship so I'd welcome outside opinions. Or even if you believe one person could be to blame at all. If I am at fault, how can I take those steps to be different since my previous attempts weren't working?

Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who tries hard to get your affection then a little while after they do they go cold? Then blame it on you when you express that your feeling hurt by certain recent behavior?

They work ore hard to get your affection then leave you high and dry with nothing in return.