Things people with depression struggle with daily that others may not know about.

[Anonymous]

Personally, I have been struggling with depression for about two years now. Although not many people know, those who do are trying to help. Little do they know, they make it worse.

1. Waking up in the morning (or in general)

I have the hardest time getting up in the morning. All I do is sleep. At night it's hard to fall asleep and your mind starts to (over) think about everything. People think I'm just being lazy, and maybe I am a little. But the intense lack of motivation and energy to get up in the morning make it feel impossible to do things you used to enjoy.

2. Lack of motivation

It's hard to find the energy to do things you used to be into (As mentioned before). You try your hardest to be happy and look forward to things such as going to the mall, going out or practising a sport. But no matter how hard you try, everything feels like a burden.

3. The struggle of being overly emotional

This can vary from person to person. Some people will show their sadness and you could easily tell they are depressed. Others (like myself), hide it with the biggest smile you've ever seen. Everybody thinks I'm the happiest person and that my life is near to perfect. It really isn't. What always stunned me is how open I am. I share personal things easily but feeling depressed, somehow I've never been able to tell people. I don't know why it's so hard. A lot of people try to disguise their sadness with a smile. What happens oftentimes is that your holding everything in. At home I break down, crying my eyeballs out over nothing. I could drop an object and be so sad about it.

Also over thinking everythinhow makes life a little harder. Wondering about what they could mean with that sentence or why they said it. Things hit home a little harder.

4. When people say: "Others have it worse"

I have heard this phrase at least 60 times. It's nice that your trying to make us appreciate what we have a little more but saying others have it worse just makes it feel like my problems aren't worthy enough of talking about. My parents say this a lot. You wouldn't tell someone who has it good, that someone else has it better, so why say the opposite?

5. How annoying we find the attention seekers that claim to be depressed and share it with the world. (pity seeking)

There's nothing wrong with sharing your feelings every once in a while on social media. But some people have taken it too far. They oten make people with depression look bad. I dont self harm . doesn't mean im not hurting as much. Making all these posts about how you're going to harm or kill yourself isn't doing anybody any good. Asking for people's opinions on if they should commit suicide or not. Like what the hell. I see all these girls posting about how much their life sucks and the next day brag about how they live like a princess. I never post about these things and I don't want people to know. I'd rather have people think I'm happy than people knowing I'm miserable.

I'm not saying there's anything wrong with people who do. It's my personal opinion.

I hope you found this interesting or maybe relateable. Again, this is based on personal opinions and experiences. Everybody is different and I'm not implying everyone with depression is dealing with it or expressing it in the same way.

[Tanuron]

Too true.

I always found it pretty damn annoying too whenever im at my rock bottom people keep telling me they are happy I look better or seem happy. I dont know why, but I always get that when im severly far down. It just reinforces my own reality that I just feel more alone than ever, which naturally dosent help with the depression. On the other hand Im not sure how to explain myself emotionally. Either I feel nothing whatsoever, or I just feel a lot of pain.

Also find it annoying with the "others have it worse" part is that so many people mistake like objects or meanginless items as a reason for you to be happy. Like so many people who have it "worse" which they sometimes refer to anyway, are happy. Naturally a depressed person just wanna be happy. People may be poor here an there but that not the same as that they are unhappy. In my opinion a more complex society breed more complex problems.

I always found it messed up, I know someone who is a pity seeker sort of. I hardly talked or shared my problems at all in general but this person claims to be depressed as well, an sure they could be, but dear lord. Every tiny thing I shared about myself with this person they automattically makes it apply to themselves, without giving it any thought whatsoever, its just "oh ye me too!". That they even go to extra lenghts to make it a reality, and in my case, this person makes it into a reality then complain to everyone about and make everyone feel sorry for them, which was a problem I had, and they didn't have. So I gotta watch this person pull a pity train where yeah, they get all the attention, support and what not. Just messed up really. Sickening. So can totally get that one too. Either way, im rambling. Sorry!.

Anyway Good take, all true :).

[Anonymous]

What bothers me even more is the large number of people who claim they are 'depressed' when they're just mixing up normal human emotions: be it intense sadness, despair, loss. It's not clinical depression. It's normal to feel depressed for everyone but please don't go around shouting that you are depressed and agreeing that it's oh so hard when you don't REALLY have any idea.

[redeyemindtricks]

#4 is shitty, but, it MOSTLY doesn't come from a bad or spiteful place.
Mostly people are trying to "help", but they are just fucking up royally on 2 different fronts. Number one, they don't understand that trying to "fix" the problem is not the correct response, for various reasons. Number two, they don't understand that those words will just make you feel worse, not better (lack of empathy).

Of course, some people who do #4 really ARE just dicks. LOL but that's not gna be most of them.

#5 is the result of depression + personal insecurity + extroversion. Yr writing suggests that you are probably an introvert, so it makes sense that you wouldn't really understand this. But, that whole building-connections-with-others thing is a thing, and, even when it's distorted by depression, it's still a thing. It can get twisted into some weird kaleidoscopic shapes, but it's still a thing.

How do you feel when people say #4? I know it makes you feel shitty, but, what kind of shitty? Is it a shitty that might at least give you a certain kind of energy, or make you feel a little more alive? Even if it's in a way that tastes, well, shitty?

[myTake Owner]

Just makes me regret talking about it. It makes me feel like my problems are insignificant because i wouldn't say that if I was willing to listen. get it? ;)

[Checkers82]

This take is awesome. I agree with everything you said. I wish everyone else understood this. Life's just super shitty with depression. :(

[broadsword]

Depression and anxiety are truly awful and can be debilitating.
The more it can be discussed and worked on can only be good.
Reading recently about the suicide rate of men here in the UK its horrendous.

Great post and thanks for the insight.

[FakeName123]

Everyone struggles with their own personal baggage. What can seem irrelevant to you, can be incredibly difficult to another person.

No reason to downplay the problems of others though or make your problems seem more severe.

[Anonymous]

I understand depression as it has been a lifelong battle for me.

When people say, "Others have it worse," don't you just want to hit somebody?

:) = smiling depression.

[myTake Owner]

Exactly that feeling. Why does smiling depression even exist though?

[Opinion Owner]

Because of the disapproval that we get when we express our depressive feelings. It makes people very uncomfortable because they don't know what to say or do.

[Anonymous]

I am more likely to die by suicide than anything else in the next 5 to 10 - maybe even 20 years.
Being an unemployed, young, single male, who lives on his own with a history of depression I tick all the boxes...

[JuicyBrain]

Depression sucks. Good luck getting out of it !

[Anonymous]

I'm also badly depressed but always hide it