Search Results: getting her to see me as more than a friend

One of the reasons men get so angry over the friendzone is not because we lost our opportunity to be more than friends. Rejection burns but that is just a fact of life for more most men. Dating is like being a door to door salesman to us. Its up to us to make it happen and if we get a no then we want to move on ASAP until we eventually hear a yes. The disinterested girl is now just a liability if we continue to waste our time and energy on her.

Anyway the real reason we get angry about the friendzone is we feel like our masculinity isn’t being respected. Respecting a man surely doesn’t mean dating him, having sex and/or getting a relationship. Its understanding his gamble he took a (likely uncomfortably) by approaching you. It’s now your turn to be forthcoming about where you stand. It need to be done sooner than later.

Confidently assuming he is going to be okay with being platonic friends when it’s plain as day he wants more is disrespectful, cowardly and selfish.

While I can understand that women are nervous that men won’t take rejection well in reality most guys can take in in stride. If they do get angry or rude than take that as confirmation you made the right choice.

No the truth is most women don’t want to lose out on the benefits of having the interested guy in their orbit (attention, favors, ego boost, someone to use against you really like, etc.). They also know that interested guy will likely do more for them vs someone who isn’t. This is especially true of if they see the guy is “nice” which women either consciously or subconsciously find feminine. Most of them have no idea how deeply insulting that attitude to vast majority of hetero men.

Anyway I haven’t been “friéndzoned” in a very long time but I’ve had women attempt that crap (including grown ass women in their 30s). The attempt itself is infuriating tbh (a woman past 30 should know better. I feel there should come a point in a woman’s life where she should understand male psychology better.

So I know this girl from school since we were 10 (now we are 26) we were never really friends, but we were nice with each other, I had a tiny crush on her but never did anything. We saw each other many times in our life, we went to the same schools until we graduated University.

In our last year in University she invited me to the movies, nothing happend but it was cool, we got along pretty well, but afterwards she was really hard to keep in touch with in Whatsapp. We lost contact for almost 3 years, and started chatting in Instagram recently, we made plans to see each other, she suggested to watch a movie at her house, although because of Covid before I went to her home she said we should keep a "safe distance"

At her place (I arrived at 6 PM) we were having a conversation it was so great that we didn't watch any movie, and just talked until 5 AM when I left. All the time with "safe distance", she opened up to me a lot and told me very personal and private things in her life, I felt so comfortable I told her things as well although she gave more than I. After I left she send me a text telling me "she had a great time, she hadn't laugh so much in a while, and thanked me for being trustworthy"

Again it was hard to keep in touch with her in Instagram, but I pushed a little more that the last time, we went to the movies yesterday (a week after the time at her place). We were to meet at 8:20, but when it was time she texted me she was just getting out of her house I got a little upset about it but when she arrived (8:30) she was running and out of breath I thought it was cool. During the movie she didn't get close at all, but turned to see me many times during funny scenes smiling and laughing, but she was away all the time so I didn't find a time to try getting touchy flirting or somthing. When we said goodbye (In Mexico is common to say goodbye with a kiss in the cheek) we got close for the goodbye kiss, but she moved her head to obvious to not let me try anything