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I've been talking with this girl for about a year and we're finally going to meet in person next month. I know she likes vintage photography, and specifically 3D photography, so I want to buy her a camera, because I know she doesn't have one. We started as friends and have become more romantic with time.

Here's the problem; the right camera, the one she actually wants, is about $250-300. I can get a comparable camera for $50, but it's not exactly the right thing; it's kind of a starter camera into the style of photography she enjoys. Brands matter enough in a situation like this that I don't really want to compromise. I have enough money that I could spend the extra money without issue.

Now... I personally don't care about spending $300, but I know that a woman could easily see a gift like that as me trying to buy her affection. Buying the cheaper camera is nice and symbolic, but the fact it isn't exactly what she wants might make the whole thing counter productive.

Is buying her a gift on our first meeting a bad idea?

For me that feels like it is the case despite being one and the same body. Basically it goes like this.

Me: I love girls, they are so nice.

Brain: They want your money!

Me: Shut up brain! It's not true and you know it.

Brain: It's not my fault you kept watching so many gold digger videos. I am reflecting what you were doing.

Me: (raises both palms before my head) OK, fair enough, there's no denying in that. But please enough is enough already. Besides there were girls, who weren't impressed by expensive cars and gifts and they kept being with the same guy.

Brain: Hah! We'll see about that. Get a girlfriend and prove me wrong. Then maybe I will give it a rest.

Me: 😓 If only it was so easy and you're driving a hard bargain.

Brain: It's a fair deal. Just think about it and get motivated. Show me they're not interested in your money and i will reconsider what I'll give you as random thoughts.

So yeah, obviously i will not tell girls nor a girlfriend, that this is what goes on in my head. It will scare them away, they'll think, that i think, that they are gold diggers and that will just make them fume of anger and it's generally not nice to hear about it. I'm better than that. Unless she's really open minded, understanding, very curious and/or a psychotherapist. I'm probably a bit crazy but aren't we all?