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I was introduced to someone (they) that either has low self of esteem or is a narc. I believe the mutual friend knew this somehow because it slipped that they liked and wanted to be with the mutual first!! I was never interested in getting with anyone but the mutual would not stop hyping me up about potentially finding a partner before an event where they'd be there. They were very needy/touchy with me from the jump I feel for it, thought I'd take them under my wing but dating and gifts and ily's were pushed on me way to fast. Before that though the mutual, they, and I would be hanging out and the mutual would push they to get my number. Meanwhile there were times where the mutual would get annoyed that they would be texting too much and would tell me to tell they not to text or they'd be blocked. Either way I knew they still liked the mutual and the mutual would flirt back knowing we were 'dating'. Like make up your mind do you hate them or want to be with him. They and the mutual have hung out together while we were dating but certain events would slip out that seemed minor but they reacted as if they weren't supposed to say anything and would change the subject. Meanwhile the mutual would not text me to ask about they as much as other relationships, say what happened when hanging out, and wouldn't seem surprised or would seem dismissive over anything I brought up about they in person saying "they did that to me too". Either way I believe that they was bothering the mutual so much that the bone was throne to me so she could be left alone but once she saw the outward things they'd do for me the mutual became jealous or changed mind about throwing the bone and knows that the bone can easily be taken back because they like the mutual first. Both they and the mutual are gone from my life because I don't trust them. I just want to know if that sound right or similar to anybody

We have been together 6 years in August, it has come to my attention the last few years that he stays on the couch mostly and only comes to bed when I make a deal of it , almost like he has too even tho I have always made it so clear how important it is for me to share a bed with him ,

I’m not needy at all but this is just one thing I feel strongly about, I have cried myself to sleep on many occasions just wondering why he won’t come to bed with me , he is great in every other way but there is an issue with his phone he will never leave it out of his sight but sorry to say I have in an rare occasion got it and looked trough it and found nothing.

Yet being realistic it shows all signs his attention is somewhere else , am I going crazy? Also to add I moved to the uk with 2 kids (not his)5 years ago and his daughter lives with us full time from a month of me moving here , then we had a child together last year. sometkmes mom really okay woth this and then other times it really hurts as he’s all I’ve got in this country.

If someone else told me what I’m going through I would honestly say there is someone else but he don’t even have the time for that. I’m not even a boaring person I’m so chilled , helpppppp

I know I've talked about this before but I tried asking him and we argued for about 3 hours in total.
He doesn't want to get sexual over the phone or video, it just doesn't feel right, don't ask why it's too much to explain and I can barely understand it myself

He says when we finally meet in real life it will more than likely different, but why do I have to be so persistent and can't I just accept his answer. It's a little hard to go 4 months ( I have 2 months left until we meet but we've already been talking for 2) without any sexual interaction, he went into this knowing it would be more than a friendship.

He said I can flirt with him but don't expect him to flirt back. So why the fuck would I wanna flirt with a brick wall?
Am I being to needy to expect him to flirt with me in a long distance relationship or should I just ignore my sexual desires for 4 months like he wants?
There is no middle ground.