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So it was my boyfriend big birthday recently and I decided to get him a gift that was a bit expensive, made him dinner and a cake, a big card of the age he's turning why i care about him and then on his birthday i sent him coffee and something small to eat. We have been together for 3 months (almost 4 months now)

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for close to 3 years now and we both are students (he’s in undergraduate and I’m in graduate school). This means that we both don’t have much money. His birthday comes before mine, and he mentioned that he wanted a specific pair of shoes he’d like. I got him those and asked if he’d like anything else which he declined to since he knows I don’t have much money and I already spent over $100 on his gifts.

my birthday arrives and I asked him what he got me since I told him what I wanted. He not only didn’t get me my request but got me literal $1 chocolate. He spent less than $20.

we often discuss marriage as well and then he started to complain about how expensive that will be already even though he hasn’t proposed yet in general let alone get the ring. We even went ring shopping in person and online, showed him what I liked, and he again said it was too expensive for his taste and opted for something that was the bare minimum. I told him to just forget it because it’s not even what I like/want and he should keep his money to himself at this point.

Am I being a bitch about it or is this the right reaction towards something like this? I’m not a gold digger but I just wish he at least tries and it seems like he’s not.

First, he got me pregnant and didn’t want to discuss about the topic. The first thing he asked was where to get the abortion. When he found out I might keep it became angry. He said really selfish and inconsiderate things to me like I will resent you if you let the kid born…I don’t want a beeping child…etc. Lucky for him that I got a miscarriage, and he was just so relieved from that he doesn’t care about my physical health. He then realized how big of jerk he was, apologized, and give him time to fix things.

Not long after, he randomly came to me and told me his friend paid flights/hotel to do some crazy adventure by himself for the weekend…an example, like purposely sleep near people with covid. We live together and he didn’t discuss with me at all. His friends didn’t just randomly did that…they asked him of he’s down and he just said yes excitedly. He purposely didn’t tell me on my birthday because he knew I would be upset. He decided to tell me today. I obviously got upset about it. I did tell him that everything adds up, and this would really add another damage to our relationship. How inconsiderate and selfish can you be for not even discussing this with me…and just do it. He understands and that it makes sense that I’m upset. But, He won’t back down and basically saying he will go. He value his friendship with his friend and cannot be disrespectful to this free trip. He does have the option to pay his friend back…but he rather go have fun and fix the relationship after. It’s very hard to say this but he rather me be upset, damaging the relationship, and go have his weekend. He also lied that his friends bought it without asking the dates. He actually told his friend which exact date.

Then he tried to play it cool and told me to just let this go and suck it up. And that this is only happening because of the pregnancy and miscarriage thing. On top of everything, he missed my dad’s birthday claiming he got the dates mixed up.