So for context we are both college students with the exception that we have completely different lives. My boyfriend has parents who pay and support his education, meaning he doesn’t have to work and can only focus on his studies. Meanwhile I have a mentally disabled parent who has literally made me take the role of a parent financially and emotionally etc. So I have to work and study because otherwise we’d get evicted. Now, am usually not a shallow person but recent events have had me rethinking the whole relationship because maybe I can’t afford to date someone who doesn’t work/ want to help me academically or financially. Even though he constantly asking to help me but doesn’t follow through with anything. This man even forgot my birthday being so many little days apart and I told him countless amount of time while he was away on family vacation. The issue with this is that he is my boyfriend and I expected him to at least do that. Needless to say it ruined my whole day. Even when we hang out it’s like he can’t afford to do anything else or maybe doesn’t want to do anything else than chill at his parents home in which he picks me and drives me there (a 1 hour drive) and when we do hang he always needs to be gaming and messaging people whereas I completely disconnect and don’t even check my phone. We usually only get to see each other maybe twice a month. Anyways, for the holidays I asked him for a specific gift that would allow me to b independent such as a driving lesson etc, where he could teach me or pay someone else to which he agreed and promised to. But I got neither instead I got things that don’t even fit me and nearly not as expensive as what I got him. I would also like to mention that he is my first boyfriend and the first person I’ve ever had an sexual interactions with and this has cost me a 400$ urgent care bill that I can’t afford and a bacterial infection.
He is very sweet and his family is nice but this is costing me more than I can afford.
