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So there was a spider on the wall (the biggest spider I'd ever seen) so I internally start freaking out and hurry to tell him, (I knock on the door and tell him about the spider) and the first thing he says is "so what im I supposed to do just hop outta the shower and get it?" And let me yell u it was the most annoyed insensitive tone I'd ever heard him muster up... by time he's outta the shower he gets the spider and puts it outside. Later that day I bring up to him how I didn't like how he spoke to me and that it was rude, he continues to tell me that it was childish of me to bother him in the shower and that I should have waited to say anything to him until he's out of the shower, that im a grown women afraid over a spider and that im too emotional and need to think first before I do and say things to him... how am I suppose to know what I should say or so so it doesn't annoy him or aggravate him... he's actually like this outside of the slider incident... like if he's on his phone a lot and I try to get his attention he will tell me to chill out or ask why I'm acting like that... it's really hurtful and I feel like I'm walking on eggshells and can't be myself because I'm afraid he will react aggressive or insensitive... what do you guys think?