Girls, Who's fault is it?

[Toyota-Mikee35]

I was seeing this young lady at her workplace which is food lion. I was seeing her for a little over a month. The first time she saw me she looked my way for a few seconds and smiled. We had a lot of good small talks and she would always ask me when was i going back to see her and i would always ask what her schedule is when she's working and she would always tell me the days she works and i would always tell her i'll be there on one of those days to see her and she would say she'll see me on one of those days. The young lady would always tell me to get in her lane to checkout and we would make small talk. It was one day last week when i went to see her and she told me to walk with her on her job since she's a curbside pickup person and register person. I was happy to walk with her but nervous because i felt like i was gonna get her in trouble for walking with her. I got asked by her if she was gonna be seeing me the next night and i said yeah and she said if i didn't come then she was gonna be upset. A couple weeks ago i met one of her lady work friends and she wait on me a couple times and she smiled at me a couple times. I went to visit the young lady at her workplace the next night like i said i would and i noticed her toned changed but we had a nice small talk. I can tell she got in trouble by her supervisor for making a lot of small talks with me. I went to see her yesterday and she was there with her same lady work friend that smiled at me a couple times and i walked up to them and for a min they didn't say anything until i spoke to her lady work friend first and after that she said she'll see me later by my name and she seems to still like me and care for me while the other one may have turned on me. Their supervisor talked to me and said she doesn't know if I'm just talking to them or if there's more to it. I would like to know if the lady i was seeing still likes me or has turned against me since this whole thing happened, none of this is my fault.

[SueShe]

Are you indeed 36 as your profile states? This is more the typical behavior or an early teenager than the one of a fully grown adult getting close to his midlife. I cannot believe that an adult would behave that way.

First, yes it is your fault. You never ever start flirting with people at their workplace. Never. She is working and you are interrupting her work by trying to have her chat with you during work hours. You are diverting her attention from her job. Of course that her supervisor is upset and it is clear that it is his duty to reprimand her for giving you too much attention.

You should refrain from behaving this way with her. What are your intentions by the way? If you want to pick her up, then don't do it while she works.

[Toyota-Mikee35]

She started the small talks with me first when we first met since she's seen me around a lot since i'm a regular. I didn' make the first move making the small talks with her, she started of all that not me, she would always ask me when was i going back to see her and i would always ask when she works and she would always tell me when she worked. I didn't expect her to go so far into all of this. I didn't expect any of this to happen. We would have small talks but she was the one that started the whole thing and would keep it going longer than she should have, she was the one that invited me to walk with her on her job while we talked which i didn't expect. I wish none of this happened and i wish she never held me up. I wish she would have kept the small talks fast and said she had to get back to work but it didn't happen, she got in trouble for talking to me and other customers too much. I got in trouble for holding up the store business while we talked so it goes both ways. It's another young lady that works with her and she waited on me a couple times and we made a couple small talks and we introduced ourselves. I think it may seem like that she still cares for me thsn the other young lady and likes making small talks with me if she wasn't uneasy with me and the other one i was interested in didn't say anything to me except when i spoke to her and she spoke back and that was it. I'm guessing it was because she got in trouble. If i want to pick her up later on then i won't do it while she works. I had no intentions to do anything.

[SueShe]

Sometimes it is better not to let yourself into smalltalk and just end the conversation. You are now an experience richer...

[Toyota-Mikee35]

True I wasn't doing or saying anything to get her attention. I know karma is gonna come back to me and get me real good. I wish none of this happened and it had to end this way but i'm gonna learn from it. I'm now an experienced richer.

[SaoirseS]

Looks like a variation of the same story with a different new account.

[Toyota-Mikee35]

I was thinking my question didn't go through the first time so i had to submit my question again. I'm just trying to get some opinions about my story.

[SaoirseS]

With a new account?

[Toyota-Mikee35]

No it's the same account.

[Nikki1989]

It sounds like you have thought about this far too much.

[Anonymous]

Don't know