Fooling around with a girl who is in a relationship while drunk?

[Anonymous]

So I was fooling around with a girl at a bush party while I was quite drunk. I didn't know she was in a relationship until the morning, as she didn't mention a thing. We were around a campfire and it was quite public - she sat on my lap for a few hours. It progressed from innocent holding to touching her back and eventually to getting her off through her pants. Mind you, she was loving it and I saw no reason to stop, besides the fact that I was still quite drunk. She eventually got tired and went to bed when it was getting bright out and I went home a few hours later.

Well obviously someone noticed that we were fooling around and told her boyfriend the next day(who is a complete loser by the way).

I get a playful text that afternoon, which I responded to despite my instincts telling me to ignore it for now, followed by a text from her boyfriend a few hours later. He sent an innocent text asking how I was doing, clearly thinking that I wouldn't know who it was.

He again texted me today asking to "meet up" because he needed to "talk". Now, I'm not a small guy and can handle my own, but I just don't see why I need to get involved. Sure, I would likely win in a fair fight, but I doubt it would be fair and I don't see what I would be fighting for honestly. I would really rather no get injured for some stupid reason. I just don't think he will let it slide if I ignore it. Hell it wasn't even my fault, I had no clue she wasn't single and she didn't say a thing even though she was a hell of a lot more sober than I was.

Just looking for some advice on what to do.

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Just to clarify, we are both seniors at the same school, so I can't really just avoid her. And honestly, I don't really hold anything against her. Not going to go around calling her a whore just to get out of the situation.

[Phoenix52]

Instead of meeting up witn this boyfriend, just call him up and talk to him.

Now if he threatens you in any way, or gets all emotional with you, ask him to relax while you explain what happened. You had no idea about her status, and that's usually the way the 'game' is played by women.

You know how guys want the best girl for them, right? Well, women play it the same way - they will have a boyfriend but if they meet someone better, they'll dump the boyfriend and latch onto the better guy. It's a tale of Survival of the Fittest.

So either this girl has major interest in you (and wants to dump her Boyfriend and pick you up), or else she's fooling herself into thinking she wants a commited relationship when she's not ready to settle down and be serious with someone.

Personally, I think women need to build their standards more, and if there's more CONS than PROS in the relationship they're in, just dump the boyfriend and move along on their own. Stop being needy for attention or companionship and just stick with casual dating until they find an ideal catch.

[MrMartin3z]

Agreed bro, couldn't have said it better.

[Jonny_]

Tell him to man up... If his girlfriend neglected to tell you she was in a relationship why should you have to get the short of the stick? Tell him to focus on the actual problem, Making a pathetic attempt to hit a guy his girlfriend willingly hooked up with gets him nowhere. If he has a problem tell him to look elsewhere.

[LatinDancer07]

Of all the things to not do, it's to call him up or text him telling him his girlfriend is a 'hoe' or something of that nature. If you do talk to him, you should remind him that you really had no idea about her relationship and if you had known, you would've never done that. But in reality, he needs to be trying to settle the situation with his girlfriend who is the problem, not you. Whether he's in denial or not, don't let him stress you out because he wants to talk. Send a quick, non-hostile message to him, but other than that, the issue is between them not you and him. There's really nothing else you can do but keep your ground and be a man.

[Anonymous]

His girlfriend is a whore, how is that your fault? Just tell him she never said anything and you aren't going to fight him. If he says you are too scared or something, just tell him you don't fight for hoes. Still, having sex with girls like that have their downsides, that would be one of them. Just remind him that SHE cheated on HIM, you didn't make her do anything, and she never mentioned a boyfriend.

[vocalheiress]

dude if anyone needs to be in a fight its he and his girlfriend! so what if you were a little drunk? SHE is the one with the boyfriend, not you. Therefore ignore him even if your really tempted to meet up with him cause it's just not worth it. He needs to get his priorities right and check up on his girl, not attempt to harss you :)

[Gregs]

Avoid getting involved, the guy might be a looser but any idiot can get a gun and shoot somebody, there is no dishonor for avoiding a fight when you know it will be unfair and no p**** is worth this much trouble unless you are planning on marrying her. Girls are worth fighting and risking your balls for, but only girls who mean a lot to you and not some chick you fingered at a party...

[sonic241928]

Good point.

[stalinhornsby]

Just deny everything ; even the part of NOT meeting up with him. If and when this clown approaches you as soon as he makes a move of aggression let him have it, at least three good solid licks then stop so it is not excesive force. Call the police and make a report. be prepared to put a restraining order against this guy. That is the best I can come up with to save yourself from injury from any weapon if this guy is a nut case of jelousy.

[bnwsmile]

It's not your fault HIS girlfriend is a whore and lacks respect for him. I would ignore it and continue on with my life :)

~bnwsmile

[Anonymous]

Text him back and say sorry your girl is a hoe but she didn't tell me she had a man. this is a problem you need to take up with her about and there is no need for me to meet with you.

[wally]

Just ignore him and don't even respond to his calls or txt. because it's not worth u'r time. and tell the chick about her boyfriend.

[l-hedoniste]

Ignore him until he comes at you, then stomp him. I'm guessing this was probably your plan anyway.

[soccerrun1]

Tell him his girlfriend is a whore and you feel bad for him

[Asker]

The thing is, I don't feel bad for him at all.

[Anonymous]

This situation could get ugly. Stay away from her and don't contact ever again. That's all I've got to say.

[Anonymous]

Dude you already got the milk why the hell worry about getting the cow. let it go

[chadwickc2]

Good one...haha

[Opinion Owner]

Well it's true haha

[Anonymous]

ignore it. you don't need that drama.