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I have a friend who's a decent enough guy overall. A hard worker with a friendly disposition that you can rely on, except when it comes to his relationships. He likes to blame everyone else for the reasons his relationships fail. "She lied to me. She left without warning. He lied to her about me. He seduced her into leaving me." That kind of talk. Near as I can tell there have been 3 women, from an outside view, that were to blame for things turning bad.

That being said his personality in a relationship is more often at fault. He's very dismissive of small issues that later turn into large ones. He talks down to his women like they legitimately don't know any better. And if He's not getting the attention he thinks he deserves he'll try and get sympathy from every other woman who will listen. Overly needy and self centered, is how I imagine most of his exes would put it.

Irregardless, he is still a friend of mine and I've been trying to push him on to a better path for the past few years. Unfortunately he seems like he's settling into the lonely and bitter old man trope by embracing his "victim-hood" and shutting positive people out of his life. I just wanna know if I can pull him back from his downward slide or should I let him hit bottom and let find his own way back?

Hey, hope you had a great Christmas. I had a think and realised I was a bit hasty in turning down friendship. I think we have a lot of common interests & it would be fun to hang out and get to know each other as friends. Think enough time has passed now since we met in a date context. What do you think?

Hey, hope you’re well. I had a think and realised I was a bit hasty in turning down friendship. I think we have a lot of common interests & it would be fun to get to know each other as friends. And being open to the possibility of something happening in future. If it doesn’t, it doesn’t - at least well be friends.