Girls, how would you respond to this message from a guy who said he’d find it too hard to be friends after several dates & an offer of friendship?

[Anonymous]

Hey, hope you had a great Christmas. I had a think and realised I was a bit hasty in turning down friendship. I think we have a lot of common interests & it would be fun to hang out and get to know each other as friends. Think enough time has passed now since we met in a date context. What do you think?

I would say yes and accept friendship

I would reject his offer of friendship as I wouldn’t trust him

[kyleelyn199723]

Personally? I would prefer if I turned down a man , for him to just keep it moving. If you are looking at a girl as a potential partner and she turns you down, you are most likely just accepting a friendship to potentially try to change her mind someday. Keep it at where it’s at and move on

[HateyouxD]

Why are you moving backwards?

[Asker]

What’s that?

[HateyouxD]

You're moving from dating to friends... you're showing her wrong. I dont get it

[Asker]

Because she said to me before “I have been thinking and I really really enjoy spending time with you but I think more as friends. How are feeling about it? I understand if you no longer want to meet tomorrow! I hope your week is going okay x”

[HateyouxD]

I see. Then just drop her. You deserve someone whose on your wavelength... she's not interested in anything romantic. Now if she doesn't decline your offer but wants to get to know you better that's fine. But this gurk here doesn't like you as anything more..

[Asker]

She said this after 4 dates.

[HateyouxD]

she's not getting that vibe from you... to want to take things further. What dont you understand?

[Asker]

I understand. But I always get that from women and I think it’s my own fault because I never show interest or make a move.

[HateyouxD]

Then try something different

[HateyouxD]

But being stuck in the friendzone isn't the answer

[Asker]

I’m too afraid of making a move. Because I’m always afraid she won’t want it.

[HateyouxD]

You'll never be in a relationship because of it. Sorry to say

[Asker]

Why is that?

[HateyouxD]

Well how else will you get into a relationship is both parties are too afraid to say anything?

[Asker]

I ask women on dates. Surely a date expresses interest?

[HateyouxD]

You must be doing something wrong I don't know. But it's clear as day no one wants to be your girlfriend

[Asker]

I wish I knew what I was doing wrong. Maybe I’m just ugly?

[HateyouxD]

It could be that you're unattractive. I doubt it. I could rate you if you want

[Asker]

Yes please. Can I send you a DM?