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Did you always prefer dating someone much older or younger than yourself?
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Most of the girls I've dated were 3~4 years younger, which I find to be the sweetspot for the kind of women I'm attracted to.
At my current age, my only age requirement for a partner is that they have to be out of school and out of home.
As long as they are no longer reliant on their parents and can make their own choices in life, I'm good.
The upper limit is decided on a case by case basis.
I'm good with a 35 year old who focused on career and never got married.
But I wouldn't want to date a 32 year old who already had her big romance when she got married to her high school sweetheart for 8 years.
Indefinitely meed someone out of school. Balancing work/love/school/etc gets hectic so i meed someone whos already lacking one lol.
Older. I don't find women my age (20s) to be very attractive most of the time and there is not a snowball's chance in hell that I would EVER consider being with anyone under 21 even if I (sadly) tend to attract a lot of 18-20s. Five years older is pretty much perfect for me.
Its good you won't go for people fresh out of high school
Pedos trying to be slick
Yea its saf
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I think I was in third grade and I was in love with mrs. Parks my teacher
I mean I would look at her and just go googoo eyed LOL
The cereal commercial Lucky Charms commercial just went through my head yellow moon pink heart blah blah blah blah blah blah just ran through my head as I said that
When I was 15 and a half almost 16 there was one of my cousins friends from college that came home we got introduced and she took my virginity but at the same time I hated it because I didn't get to see fireworks and there was a show called The Love Boat and Love American Style and those guys always talks about when they had sex they seen fireworks but it was really good I was upset because I didn't see this but it was the best learning experience ever because I'm the type of guy I want to be very good at everything I do so far a week and a half I got to think about it and I got to have sex with her three more times it wasn't until the last time that it was good it was only good because I made it all about her and we both see fireworks.
And then the week later I was babysitting for lady and when she got home the girl that she was with ask me if I wanted a ride home and I said yes please but she lived like two blocks away from me she was 47 and we had to stop by her house first well next thing I know we were fucking and everything that I had learned I used and I saw her for over a year until she told me that she was getting back with her husband that I didn't know that they were even together I thought that they were divorced that kind of broke my heart but then she introduced me to a lady that was 35 and we went out for about a year but we didn't really go out much better we get a lot of things together LOL
I always liked older women because they wanted to do things they didn't want to just sit around the house and not do anything now it my age right now the older women don't want to do anything and it's the younger girls that want to do stuff and the younger girls are so smart are creative they are bold in everything they do and say and I love that
Now insane All the Above there's not a certain age that I like
I look at it like this I will know the person when I talk to them when I see them when I meet you if they we are compatible or not and that's what if she likes everything I like and I like everything she likes then we have to explore that
am 44 and preffer legal (18) to 30. yes if circumstances and situation comes along, something a bit over 30 mite happen. this is for an actual relationship. a ways back i used to play around a lot (cybering/sexting) online and was more open with age range for that. due to that (though most were still under 30) had plenty of women i could have been having face to face friends with benefits relationships with if only i had the resources to travel alottttttt. about the closest one lived one state south of me. funny side note to all that is the fact i was not working nor did i have a car at that time. as well i was living with my mother. had a medical issue going on preventing me from working anywhere so i helped my failing health mom. anyways, i had anywhere from 8 to 30 women i could have, at least occassionally, stayed the night or an indetermined number of nights with but all were scattered across the globe. keep in mind i was 31 to 34 at the time. their ages ranged from 18 to around mid 50s but i also wasnot looking for anything remotely serious. a few even proposed it being something slightly serious (if i could reach their location) and more permanent and i was considering the offers with most of them if i could travel. 2 off the top of my head were in UK by the way, 1 maybe mid 20s the other maybe 31.
at least 3 in UK
1 in Ireland
1 or more in india
1 in new zealand
1 in florida
1 in alaska
1 in hawaii
2 in california
1 or 2 in the carolinas
a few in texas
and more spread across other places
a lot more that only wanted it as online play.
but now that i settled that part down some and only want to eventually build into something serious, but start off casual (thank my EX fiancé for breaking me from only seeking serious relationships straight from the start) and my critetia changed some due, in large part to wanting to at least having the opportunity to being a father. i know enough about chances for a woman to concieve and carry to term safely based off age that it starts getting unsafe for her, the baby, or both (on average) at age 30. so with that info my primary age cap for a potential partner became 30. couple that with the basic biological hardwired in most of us (men) desire for younger women. and yes a degree is looks based for my age prefference too. probably other factors too but people need to really get to know me personally to find out.
So what do 18 year olds bring to the table? They can't even sit at the poker table
there are some 18 year olds who got some or even most of their shit together. ofren due to something going wrong earlier in life such as having to take over running the household because tge parent/s got into deep legal trouble, died, severely injured, etc. being honest though, lower end such as 18 i look closer at habits and personality traits. and also being honest, its a bit of a long shot hope that if it happens, is a huge ego boost.
in general terms (sorry but as for why me in particular is for women i mite care to date to know) we older guys tend to have more stsbility, more resources, more wisdom, less insecurities about our self worth, are more secure, and often more likely to be loyal and faithful, not to mention know more about what to do in the bedroom.
Bro woman my age are boring KARENS!! Bro woman my age give me dirty looks because I love having fun woman my age are boring they don't want to prank call people they don't want to sing dong ditch the house. One time this one bitch my age calls the cops on me for putting toilet paper at a neighbors house.
Why would a boring Karen my age want a man your age?
I don't get it.
MagiusX26 You are absolutely correct. I have friends that dated guys your age let me tell you they are more loving caring and protective. I am actually 29 and now ex husband he is 30 and yes we are divorce now. I noticed that my friends are a lot more happier than I. A dog can come a bite me and my ex-husband he can care less of where abouts he would also neglect me. So yes man your age are way better I must say.
@DizzyDesii i think there are a few trolls floating around this one
@Tornado92
You asked " Bro why do woman my age want you?"
It's because you are the alternative
For me, it has changed. When I was younger, I always thought the same age was the best. As an adult, I have realized that there are perks to both younger and older women. In my early 20s, I had a very narrow age gap for dating. One or maybe two years younger or older. In my mid 20s, I preferred a little older. In my late 20s, I was open to dating mid 20s to mid 30s. Now that I'm in my early 30s, I have a strong preference for same age or younger but not too much younger, 24-30 because I generally get along with that age range better. I won't refuse if I find someone 23 or 37 if she is truly compatible with me but in my experience, I feel that too young is usually too unsure about life and if a woman hasn't found love by 30, I would have to wonder why. It's not at all because her looks are fading or 30 is too old, and I'm sure there are plenty of single women in their 30s who have great character, but for the kinda women most men are attracted to, they're usually taken before 30. At the same time, the world is changing, people are losing their social skills due to covid, losing opportunities due to covid, people are working more on their careers, and they are marrying later. At the end of the day, I think it's perfectly fine to have preferences but if someone doesn't like you solely because of your age, he/she is not worth your time.
I still prefer someone my age but if its a great vibe then i’ll take up to 3 years younger/older
I would date those who caught my attention until I met my now girlfriend. A lot of women my age I tried dating either didn't work out or we didn't have much in common in the long run. Oldest I dated was 31/32, I believe.
Four girls either my age or +/-1 year. 1 was a narcissist. One put in no effort at all. One just texted she wasn't feeling it after our second date. And the other just ghosted.
Younger women have been better results from my experience. One was 25 when I was 27. Great chemistry, similar sense of humor, respectful of views in terms of religion/politics, great relationship with her father despite and her brother after her parents divorced, similar goals and desires. Ultimately didn't work out since I was just finding my feet in the dating world after being a late bloomer. I messed it up by trying to do what I thought was right and by being fearful I would screw it up.
Then came the woman I am with now. Biggest age gap out of them all, and that was a little weird when we started dating, but that quickly went in the back of my mind. Just like the woman I mentioned in the last paragraph, feels right and peaceful.
Personally I was hesitant on dating anyone if there was a gap greater than three to four years, but this relationship I am in now has changed my perspective about that.
Wow opposite for me. I've gotten along better with older guys but i dont want an older guy until maybe after I've had kids
You know I would cook and clean for you but you want younger woman well have fun eating McDonald's everyday since you choose a younger woman.
DizzyDesii I want him to live. his young stupid girlfriend for a woman my age.
@DizzyDesii younger women tend to like older men, so your reasoning for getting along with older guys isn't farfetched since they tend to be more mature and established than younger men.
Yeah, I know you were thinking about cutting off kids by the time you reached like 30 or something. Dating who makes you happy is what counts. Like I said, I was open to age save for women younger than me until the woman I am with now.
Yea i dont like much older tho. I reeeeally prefer same age but i’ll go up to 3 years younger or older
@DizzyDesii whatever works, Dizzy. 👍
I'm willing to do up to a 10 year gap (older or younger) in order to have enough in common, but the odds of a 45 year old single, childless, atheist woman, who was born in the 70s, being into sci-fi, anime, fighting games, and dinosaurs, is pretty much zero (and thats not even counting attractiveness as a filter).
Right now my issue is the women I get along with superbly as friends are half my age, but I don't wan't someone that much younger than me. So the issue isn't age exclusively, it's that I can't relate to anyone born too much before me. And I can't relate to most people born at the same time as me.
If I had been born in the late 90s or early 2000s, I'd prefer someone my exact age, but I think all the women my age or older who I'd like, are already taken (or reached single mom status), so I may end up being forced to date younger just to get a geek/nerd/gamer/artist who's not religious and doesn't have kids.
Honestly not sure what to do about this, I wish more women my age were into the stuff I'm into, but even for just friends, I tended to hang around people younger than me by at least 5 years just to have shared interests, and the fact that I look and act like the average gen z more then the average millenial probably has an added impact in that.
Almost every time I talk to an older person, they are grumpy, jaded, miserable, hate all the things I enjoy doing, and complain constantly about everything, and I'm never going to be that way regardless of how old I get.
Yea i get along great woth people that are like 20 years older and 10 years younger. But i still prefer to date same age
So you don't want to get along with your SO? Or are you just holding out despite poorer odds?
Age itself doesn't matter a whole lot to me, but being half or double my age gives me a reflex cringe, so I try to keep it within a small enough gap so it's at least a person in my decade.
Exact same age would be nice though.
Im single atm. Od course i get along with same age but im just saying I've had stuff in common with much older and younger too. Theyre just not my preference at the end of the day… same age is
I've not found one woman my age that I get along with, who wasn't already taken, wasn't a geek celeb with millions of horny dudes stalking her (ie esports/cosplay girls/e-girls), and wasn't a single mom.
I've always been into older men. I once had a crush on someone my age in late middle school - early highschool but i was never into dating someone in my age group even if he had asked. My focus wasn't even dating at that time. Then there was a point in highschool where all the guys totally disgusted me.
So older men just has always been my thing and I never told any of my friends because I knew they would never understand. But my best friend at the time guessed right and said " I have a feeling you might have a thing for older men..." maybe she guess right because one time some guy caught my eye.
Did you at least wait til you were 18 to date them lol
Lmao, YES 😂. Honestly i dont date still to this day bevause no one has reaaaaaaalllllyyy caught my eye yet, yeah i found some people hot but meh i didn't want them. Plus mentally I am not ready. I am scared of dating, what do people talk about and what if it gets awkward... SCARY
The awkward moments are cute if you both end up laughing. And just tell the guy you want to take it slow. I often tell a guy we have to get to know eachother 1-3 months just talking and hanging out before i decide if i want to become official and date
Sigh basic talking os awkward for me lmao. I kmow would be dry as hell ahaha
I am 44 and I have always dated women under thirty, save for my ex-wife (we were married from age 22-32).
I tried to date a 38-year-old once, but she acted as if I were nothing. Older women are far more demanding and cruel. They do not appear to want a relationship. Younger women are direct and straight forward. I can usually tell if a younger woman wants to talk, and if she does not, she simply says so (no sadistic cruelty).
I have nothing against older women. The fact of the matter is that they are a waste of time. I want to get married. I do not want to waste my time with bitter, angry older women. Furthermore, I have no interest in any woman who initiated a divorce (I am fine with good women with garbage husbands who walked out).
Younger women are way meaner lmao unless you're referring to shy ones. Cause we speak our mind and are blunt 😂
I generally prefer women at least a bit older than me, but it's not a requirement.
I have dated women up to 14 years older than myself, but only women 1-2 years younger. The relationships with older women have been the better, more fulfilling relationships. The times I've dated younger women never lasted very long. It just always seems to fall apart rather quickly.
As I've gotten older, my desire to date younger women has decreased, but then I've also been in a relationship for 10 years, too, so my desire to date anyone but my SO is non-existant, anyway. 🤷♂️
Thats amazing to hear its lasted 10 years. Thats so rare these days
Thanks! Here's hoping for 40-50 more 🤞
My preference is close to my age but I’ve dated 5+ years older and two years younger. I don’t seek out age as a main factor but I prefer someone whose in a similar stage of life (wants a family life not a party one). That can vary though because if I decide to change career paths, I may find myself back in college. Life is ever changing. I think compatibility is very important.
I originally liked people around my own age, but as time went on I saw their morals and I came to dislike people around my age. (When I was in my 20s I disliked people in their 20s. In my 30s I disliked people inn their 30s. etc.)
I seemed to be more compatible with people at least 9 + years younger than myself. Of course I wouldn't want a woman past 30 to start a new relationship with, but even for just friendships I like them 9 + years younger because I don't like the ones around my age most of the time. For friendships with guys I get along with ones 5+ years older most of the time.
I really have no preference, but I have a wife who is 38 years older than me. I married her when I was 19 and she was 57, and we have been a couple for twelve years now ages 31 and 69 with an 11-year-old daughter. Age is only a number, as she is still the most beautiful woman I have ever laid eyes on.
Woooooow
I used to like older men more than younger until I realized that there are really awesome guys out there regardless of age who take care of themselves, are wise, traveled and have an insane sense of humour. So as long as you’re attractive and you’re a great person to be around, age isn’t a thing.
To some. I get that men can have kids at any age but one factor i look at is that its better to have them while both parents are younger
That age matters to some because the baby is likely to be born with less side effects if the parents are in their 20s
Women should have mids before 34 but they can still produce past that. Men can produce at old age but the point is, the older either of them are, there's greater risk of down syndrome. Its quite common with parents that are too old or too young (under 18). So i prefer someone also in their 20s just to lower that chance
I live in a place where marriage and kids are common at 18. I didn't exactly want to start that young but its certainly happening aeound here. All the best to you too
I only dated a few women, all of them around the same age within a year or two. All of them I knew from highschool. After that I really didn't meet any women. As my friends joke going out is a big sausage fest around here. It's like online dating only in real life , you go into a club and it's 20 guys for every girl and the girl is a lesbian.
Being an outgoing and funny guy I once took the lesbian home (seriously we are still friends)
I’ve always been attracted to older. My first “obsessive” crush started when I was in grade 2 and he was 3 years older. I still vividly remember. Tall, skinny, crackhead looking white boy with semi long black curly hair. He really was the blue print to my type😂. Very unlikely that I’ll ever go for a younger guy as men the same age as me aren’t even appealing. Doesn’t have to be a crazy age gap or anything but a few years older is ideal.
Usually I date within 15 years older (so roughly 46 as an upper limit) and end up with people 24+ on the lower end. Hookups are less stringent, so legal and beyond is pretty much fair game, if the attraction is there.
But for dating purposes, a 20 year old is usually still too young and someone over 50 feels totally like another generation.
I feel u on that
Really it’s just someone I emotionally connect with, which can end up with odd results.
I’ve dated both older and younger.
i also have this thing where you cannot tell a girls age if she’s dressed up, make up on etc, at least not reliably. It means you think she’s 25 and she’s 30, you think she’s 30 and she’s 25.
I know one 30yr old who looks 20.
Yea i’ll never be into makeup so thats one favor the guy should be thankful for lmao
Every one of my girlfriends was at least a couple years younger than me. That wasn't one of my criteria for choosing partners, it just happened that way. The biggest age gap was 6 years when I was 37 and had a 31 year old girlfriend.
My wife is 2 1/2 years younger. Yep, I robbed the cradle. LOL
Lmao 2 years is perfect
When I was young I preferred dating women the same age or older. As a middle-aged man who was divorced, I have not been attracted to women who are older than a few years younger than me. I prefer women 4 to 12 years younger, and women within that age range are the most apt to show interest in me.
I see
I can't say I have a preference. My girlfriend is a little over 3 years older than me (she's 25 currently), and I've only had one relationship other than the one I'm in now, and she was also older, but only by 6 months.
I guess I can say I'm subconsciously into slightly older girls, but not too much older.
Im just glad you found love
Lol, thanks. I'm sure you'll come across someone eventually.
I've only been single for 2 months. I’ll survive lmao
Lol.
You know I used to have that mindset but weird thing. My ex husband cheated on me with a woman that's 10 years much younger then him. My ex husband and I did had a lot of differences I am 29 he is 30 we aurgue a lot. I wanted his Amway thing while. I had other plans in mind. But everyone is different.
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