Would you rather date someone older or younger?

Question

I’ve always been into girls younger than me until recently. Lately I’ve been very attracted to older women.

EzraIsShy76028 · Accepted Answer

In a general sense I would say older, but it also depends on how much older and how much younger.

In general I'd prefer a 25 year old woman to a 21 year old woman, 2 years older and younger than me respectively. But I'd still prefer a 21 year old woman to a 30 year old woman, as 30 is too big of a gap for me. I'd still prefer 30 to 16 though, as I don't wanna date a literal child and feel like a pedo, lol.

So closer to my age, no extremes in either direction, but my preference is in general leaning older.

I just don't like being expected to be the "mature" one in the relationship, when I'm the complete opposite. And I like the idea of a partner who can teach me more things and take care of me.

Though to be fair though there are a lot of younger people than me who are more responsible and mature, so yeah... lol.

NicholasRedone · Accepted Answer

@nicfire171 I'm 31 and I'd prefer to date a woman who's either a mature-with-playful attitude who's 20 or 24. I prefer having a slight age gap (always legal of course) because when I was 18 or 24 myself, I used to think "I want a woman the same year as me for birth year or a 1 year age gap" and now as an older man at 31, even when I was 28 or so, I've preferred a woman who's about a 4-5 year age gap than me - aka at 28 I knew I'd want someone who's 22 or 22. At 29 I knew I liked 24 as a groovy number

At 31 - I like 24 or 25

SueShe · Accepted Answer

I don't date, have no urge or need to date because there are more negative sides to dating than there will ever be positive sides.

Now, if I was forced to date a person, then there would be a great number of conditions that I place on that option. The major one would obviously be that the person I have to date has intellectual maturity, a great personality and excellent character.

Those can only be achieved with people that have a greater life experience. Another big plus with older people is that they set their life priorities differently than younger ones.

Now, if I was forced to date, then it would be someone 65+ because at that age, thoughts are far from the sexual stuff and more on the real important things in life.

LiaRaven · Accepted Answer

These type of questions are really confusing because there is not a specific answer to choose, there are several factors would affect

ManOnFire · Answer

Welcome home, my guy! I too prefer older women. No young things in their 20s, please for the love of God. The youngest I'm willing to go is 35 and even that is a distant second option.

Summeroflove · Answer

Yes but not past child bearing age. Never say never… But I kind of want kids. Also nobody underage either.

Finchie40 · Answer

I date both , just depends on the chemistry and connection with each other

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Depends on who the women are, but odds are leaning on younger.

Basically which one is cute af, single, a virgin, an atheist, doesn't drink, smoke, or do other drugs, and shares my hobbies and interests and views?

1 in 20 women half my age fit that description, 1 in 20 million older women do.
Unfortunately millenial women or older who like video games, science, and nerd/geek/otaku culture, are like unicorns.

Unless you count a few rhinos, they pretty much don't exist.

strateguy632 · Answer

When i was younger i attracted older and was happy with a girl friend... me 4 she 6, me 3 she 4, me 8 she 13 etc. Just friends the most we could do was kiss.

Then i reached 16 and felt my age is preferred but again i attracted older... then i reached 35 and the age 27 who got hurt by men their age found me. So now i prefer younger.

bddddd · Answer

Why does it matter?

The answer to your question is younger. The reality has been older.

So why ask such a broad question? In what way is anybody's answer going to affect your life in anyway? If you have a specific question about a specific situation that you face then ask about that situation.

Don't ask if the world is flat.

Howdy13 · Answer

Near my age. I’m 27 the lowest I’ll go is 23 maybe 22 and that’s a strong maybe and if their older probably 30 but I don’t really see many single 29+ year olds and women don’t usually date younger.

WonderingManII · Answer

I prefer younger, but not too much younger. I am 46, and I would like her to be anywhere around 30 - 46. But if for odd reason a girl younger than 30 fell in love with me. If she's mature enough mentally and is in her 20's I would make myself be ok with it.

RavVid · Answer

Still in my younger girl phase. The biggest divide I think is if a woman has had children, their attitude changes.

LostGirl9 · Answer

Depends on how much older or younger. I can do a year younger but no more than that, as for older no more than 4

Anonymous · Answer

My husband is 12 years older. I think dating an older man is better for a younger woman because they are more mature, experienced, financially secure and successful than men her own age and make better husbands and fathers.

DizzyDesii · Answer

I’ve often preferred dating someone of the same age yet I continue to attract men 2-5 years younger or 10+ years older.

RingOfFire · Answer

As a teenager, maybe a year younger. 20s dated women older and younger. By my 30s I only wanted to date younger women. That's still the case today, but now maybe its because there are no women who are older than me! ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Lliam · Answer

Younger. All my girlfriends were younger. Even when I was 16, my first girlfriend was barely 15.
The biggest age gap was when I was 36 and met a lady who was 30. We wound up living together for two years.
My wife is2.5 years younger.

WhiteThought · Answer

I'm attracted to women younger, my age, and older. If I'm going to be in a relationship, I would much rather be with a younger woman, as would the overwhelming majority of men.

exitseven · Answer

Now that I am old I would say younger. Anyone older than me would be on Medicare.

nastyb · Answer

I'm 29, I can go 2 years younger and up to 8 years older. I find that males generally mature 3-4 years slower than females.

Shiprex · Answer

Either or would be it. The character and engagement would be the deciding factor.

MySunflowerSophia · Answer

Older, but only by a few years. Like if I was 23, a guy who's 24-25 wouldn't be that bad.

Miristheiss · Answer

Younger.  The same age or younger.  I bet most women want the same age or older.

Babebytheshore85 · Answer

Older.. younger guys are annoying and attention seeking

Chayce · Answer

Not much younger. max like 3 years. Older yes

Lokiion · Answer

Older but not old, like 20 or 21, I guess, anything -passed that is pushing it tbh

Avicenna · Answer

Definitely younger

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Probably younger, because I do want to have kids, but there have been older women I would definitely date..

Jerre · Answer

I have dated girls from age 18 to 65. No preferences, just depends on their personality

BDRick · Answer

Older jeans more experience so figure my answer, please

Godihateyou · Answer

Older. They have money and I don't have to fuck them as much. Just harder once in a while

Panthero80 · Answer

Younger, I would like a child and at my age, an older woman would not be very fertile.

Anonymous · Answer

If I want to have kids, I would definitely want to date a younger girl.

Twalli · Answer

My girlfriend is 5 years older than me. I'm willing to date both older and younger, within a range.

Beckybooboo · Answer

A little older.

itsannalee · Answer

Older but not old people.

MemeSupreme · Answer

older but it doesn't matter

trumpetplayerforlife · Answer

Older I love my men older

red-lipstick-girl · Answer

KI would rather date someone older than me.

fish5505_87 · Answer

Doesn't matter to me!

Nerdvana · Answer

Someone who's mature.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Either or. I've dated younger and older so far

blackeagle007 · Answer

Depends on the woman

hello4433 · Answer

I prefer someone around my age

Maskx · Answer

I’m 23, my age range is 19-29.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Younger, but it's not a strong preference.

Anonymous · Answer

Older More money and less liberal

Apple1996 · Answer

Younger

sage2021 · Answer

Same or younge

Chichi90 · Answer

What do you like about each?

V1ka5h · Answer

Anyone with whom my vibe matches

JezzOz1 · Answer

younger.

EmmiL · Answer

Older

Sam1726 · Answer

Older but only by a year or two.

chrissykerdock · Answer

how old

zombiewoof · Answer

Younger

pieguy1953 · Answer

Both.

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