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1. He has three or four kids.
He has never been married and has THREE OR FOUR CHILDREN. The oldest is about 10 or 11. So my sister will automatically have to be mommy to kids that aren't' hers and feed three or four extra mouths. It kinda just sucks that he has that many damn children and I'm worried her life will suck starting off with all those kids including her own daughter.

2. He works a job that makes ends meet, but not a job to where their big ass family can live a certain lifestyle. She'll probably end up supporting him and his kids.

3. He's obese. Like HUGE. This worries me because he clearly doesn't have healthy eating patterns and doesn't know ish about diet or portion control. I'm concerned that they'll have a bunch of overweight, unhealthy children who have low self-esteem and get picked on.

The whole situation just seems like a mess and she keeps saying "If I get married..." "At my wedding..." like it's some amazing thing to have an overweight husband who can probably barely make ends meet and already has three or four kids. Are these superficial, judgmental reasons for not wanting my sister to marry this man? Can you see where I'm coming from?

My husband took our whole family including his mother, aunt, aunts boyfriend, our 4 daughters and our adult daughters boyfriend on a Christmas cabin vacation. During a board game our 14 year old daughter became frustrated, stormed off yelling and back talking. My husband and I were stunned and embarrassed. My mother in law and husbands aunt went to the kitchen and my husbands mom very loudly was saying "My kids never acted this way...", I went down to correct my daughter and my husband came in angry, stopped me and told me to go upstairs. The aunt was telling the MIL to shut up, blah, blah. I began to cry and left the room. My husband came up and began a tirade that included saying we all are spoiled bitches, all women are bitches and cunts. Every woman in the world can't get along. Men are better than women... All while our daughters ages 9, 10, 15 and 23 were in earshot. The 23 year old was bawling and took the kids out. She later said the youngest of the family said if Dad hates women will he hate us too when we are older. He was out of control and had been drinking all day. He said he would never ever feel the same about me, his mom and aunt again. He makes the money so he tells us what to do. He proceeds to say the children come first, his wife, mom and everyone else is second. He threatened to take the kids Christmas Day and leave. He gets up The next day and we are all expected to act as if nothing happened. I have lost respect and love and don't think I can live this way anymore. He is very controlling and because he is the breadwinner expects us to not voice or express dissatisfaction of any kind. I have a chronic illness that there is no cure for and I can't live up to his expectations and feel I'd be better off divorced and sharing custody of the kids. By the way, in front of others and the public he is thought of as the best guy on the planet and I'm told every day how lucky I am to have him. I will be the bad guy in the breakup publicly. So torn and so