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The Emotionally Wounded Woman and the Player Who Dodged a Bullet

Emotionally Wounded Woman and the Player that Dodged a Bullet


Childhood wounds dig deep...



I met Sara, my girlfriend at the times good friend and she was fun, bubbly, had a good job and attractive..her own home. She loved to dance and was entertaining in conversation. She was also real, like I could see some negative emotion as well. As a Christian, she had something in life to hold onto and some moral foundation.



I got to know her and she took me out shopping for clothes for me as she had an eye for style (my girlfriend encouraged it and was fine with it)....had a great time. She also did a fashion show for me and her girlfriends (I was so friendzoned...which was fine)...and she was just so much fun like a girl at play (no I'm not gay, it was fun...).



My girlfriend at the time started to share more of what she knew about Sara and how freightening and angry she can be....my girlfriend had a "terror" look on her face that said I didn't "know her" like you'd see in a scary movie. The discussion wasn't about insecurity. I found out that Sara had been molested and controlled by her father for years, no mother to protect her and that she had been divorced some years before.



One day we were at Sara's place, and I saw the "tempest" unleashed!


The Emotionally Wounded Woman and the Player Who Dodged a Bullet


I could find no image that portrays the expression of twisted, hateful, angry emotion that came forth from her that was projected across the universe....because I don't think you can act it...this is as close as I could find.



I had never been that intimidated or caught off guard as I backed up across the room and onto her couch, took a pillow in front of me, listened... and couldn't back away anymore. I tried to hold my ground, but could not. It was pure evil (the lier) stored within her from years of abuse and frustration that would leech out at times. There is something within the human being that says...we occupy space and that space is to be loved, not invaded and abused...and if we are...it hurts! There is right and wrong that is universal and she was wronged as a child. Her tempest was unleashed verbally, luckily not physically. We did our best to calm her but there really was nothing other than letting the storm pass.



Human emotion is a powerful thing. The stuff that resides within us, in the sub-conscious mind (memories of hurts can be so powerful vs the good) and heart that is false...that is whatever isn't pure in love...can twist us...especially as children when we are so impressionable. These are things that have a grip on us, control us, and send us in the wrong directions in life oh so often.



I still view her as a precious person, I have love for her, value her for her gifts and the good things she can do in life. I don't view her as a bad person, she's really a good person and attractive woman in many ways. But man... would it be hard to be in a relationship if that came out frequently and I didn't understand it or wasn't prepared to handle it. I can only imagine that is what her husband ran into and he was shut down from it...being a somewhat introverted guy.



You really want to take your time and get to know people before you get real involved. This is an extreme example...we all have our "wounds" influencing our behavior. Just realize that and get to know the other person. If you don't, then understand the challenge you may face and accept it. Thing is, it could be a hard life if you choose wrongly.


The Emotionally Wounded Woman and the Player Who Dodged a Bullet

This isn't about how wounded she is, she can heal and grow and has been. She can rise above this as she has been. It is about getting to know someone in life before you get too involved.


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I know a "player" who picked her up at a dance one time as she was traumatized afterwards that she had done what she had done. She didn't even want to be in the same space with him because she was embarassed. I know he was a player because I know another woman he tried to pickup and I know the signs. I don't know the details and don't want to know.



Suffice it to say, he doesn't know the bullet he dodged. He got the thrill and I'm sure looks at it as success. He's lucky she is not a spiteful woman and he isn't bound to her (offpsring, etc..).


Some of you are playing some dangerous games, and we all do at times as our desires take over, and our needs outweight our common sense and risks. Word to the wise though to think, use your gut senses, and get to know the other person. Relationships, lifelong commitments can be tough if you don't have a good partner and if you don't know them...you may be in for a hard ride. Take the wisdom if you can...

The Emotionally Wounded Woman and the Player Who Dodged a Bullet
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