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People make me feel like something is wrong with me because I'm 28 years. old and not married, especially in my Latino culture.

I've been in abusive relationships, so I'm not in no rush in getting married even if people think that I should hurry. I just want to heal from past trauma and continue to learn to love myself as long as it takes. I rather wait long than marry the wrong guy. I'm currently a graduate student at a top school. I'm the first in my family to graduate high school and pursue higher education, so education and bettering myself economically is a priority.

Although I believe that my life is heading in the right path, people seem to see me in a negative light that I'm not married nor have children.

They say I'm pretty and that no guy is going to want me if I wait too long... I get it, but what can I do? I don't want to marry just any gut that gives me attention just to make people not talk or because I feel lonely. It's hard to find marriage material people to marry in general.

Why do people keep asking if I'm married... is it because societal pressure on women is hard on us?

Do men get societal pressure to marry as much as women?

Thank you :-)

I have been dating a guy for 6 mnths. He told me in the beginning that he wasn't ready to be committed, but I decided to date him and see if things would be. I've been feeling that this is reflected in his low effort behavior. I did express to him that I would appreciate it if he tried more and he actually improved. He tried to text me, call me more often, introduce me to his friends and family. At some point, he was almost acting as if he was my boyfriend. However, I still feel that he doesn't want to get closer and that something is missing. He would text me a few words everyday and tried to call me a few times a week. Yet, I felt that we didn't get more emotionally connected. I told him I felt as if he did not want to talk to me sometimes. He thinks I am too negative and never have enough although he already tried to improve. He said I am too needy and that stops him from feeling more. I used to receive a lot more attention and care from other guys I dated. That's why I had the idea that this guy isn't really into me.

I asked him again how he felt, and he said he likes me a lot but still doesn't feel more for me, and this probably won't change in the future. He still wants to keep seeing me and doesn't want to date others. He said it's in the back of his mind that he might move away, so that probably holds him back from feeling more. However, he seems to realize as well that this could change if he was in love with me, but he said he doesn't.

I like this guy a lot, and I am confused what I really want. I don't think he will be a good long term partner because of some missing qualities. Yet, I like his company a lot, and the sex is great. On the other hand, I'm also afraid I would feel more and fall for him. In fact, I'm not even sure if I already did

Am I really too needy? Should I keep seeing him and focus on the present, or let it all go? I do not want to stop seeing him but I'm afraid of the consequences.