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The guy's almost 30 years old, with a Master's Degree and a relatively well-paid full time job. He's also 5'10" and weighs in at 80kg, with black belts in a few different martial arts, and considerable athletic prowess (runs 100m in 11 secs, 200m in <22 secs, javelin throw of 75m+). However, he's also a virgin, and has a near-total lack of sexual experience, having never had a girlfriend before or even experienced his first kiss before meeting the girl. He has epilepsy, so he's not allowed to drive. He also has mild Aspergers', which can make socialising a considerable challenge, as can the fact that he's a teetotaller, who's never drunk alcohol, smoked or taken any form of non-prescription drugs in his life. He's also only had his high-paying job for the past few months, and he's still struggling to pay back his student debts.

The girl, on the other hand, has only just turned 18 years old, doing an arts degree and struggling to make ends meet. She's only 5'4", and has a petite/toned build, weighing in at roughly 50kg. She also has decent athletic ability, though hers is more gymnastic orientated. However, she's moonlighting as a lap-dancer in a nightclub to help support her student finances, giving private strip-dances to paying costumers as per her work-agreement- though she's more than willing to ditch her night-job after meeting the guy. Still, it's safe to assume that she isn't a virgin, and that she has plenty of sexual experience. She can drive, and has a car. Thanks to her side-earnings, she doesn't have any debts. She doesn't smoke or do drugs either, but she has in the past, and she still drinks alcohol, albeit in moderation. And she's quite extroverted, having no problems with socialising at all.

If they were to give it a go, and embark upon a fully-fledged, committed sexual relationship with one another, which of the two would hold the position of power in that relationship? How so, and why?

I've been dating my girlfriend for the past few months, and we've been exclusive for all that time. Haven't actually had proper sex yet, but we've been planning to, sooner rather than later- the chemistry's definitely there, and when we've been making out, it's been great. I think she's a keeper, the best girl I've ever had; it's still early days, but I've been seriously thinking about getting married and starting a family with her. This week though, I found out that the guy who her single mum just got engaged to is actually my biological dad (my mum broke up with him when I was 3, but it's definitely him); we're about to become brother and sister-in-laws. Our relationship's about to become incestuous, just because my dad's beaten me to the punch and lined himself up to marry my girlfriend's mum first. Both our parents are in their early-mid 50's, so it's not like they'll be getting it on and having new babies. But if my girlfriend found out that her mum's getting married to my dad, she'd be really freaked out by it, and I don't know if she'd be able to handle it- to handle us being together, in a sexual relationship, as brother and sister-in-laws. What should I do? And if you were in my position, or my girlfriend's position, what would you do?

"Consent must be explicit, implicit, complete, thorough, and informed. In addition to the implicit consent that is already exchanged between couples, you must explicitly ask your partner whether your partner wants to have sex with you. You must also give a complete and thorough summary of your sexual history. This is to help your partner to become aware of how many previous partners you've slept with and whether or not you've contracted STIs from those partners and whether or not you've been tested for any STIs. Finally, informed consent involves telling your partner exactly what is going to happen, which is sexual intercourse. You must be able to articulate that you are going to have sexual intercourse with your partner, how it is going to be achieved, what positions you are going to do, where you are going to do it, how long the sexual intercourse will take approximately, and that your partner can refuse participation in the act at any time at no penalty on your partner's part."

Would you ever entertain the notion of having a sexual relationship with a partner if he/she went through all this with you as a prelude to every single sexual encounter that you ever had with him/her, as the guidelines state that people now have to do, under the 'yes means yes' guidelines, or be found guilty of rape? If they sat you down, and gave a complete and thorough summary of every single sexual encounter they'd ever had in their life; before going on to tell you exactly what was going to happen in the forthcoming sex session, how they were going to go about having sex with you, which sexual positions they were going to do it in, exactly how long they'd have sex with you for, and clarifying that you could refuse to participate at any time in the explicitly detailed sexual activity they'd set out- in a cold, calm and emotionless manner, as the law states that all sexual partners must- how would you react? And would you ever have sex with them if they did this?