10 Things I Appreciate in a Woman

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10 Things I Appreciate in a Woman

There are a lot of great things about women. And if my previous MyTake titled "In Honor of Femininity: The 5 Things I Love Most About Women" has been forgotten, the things I love most about them are their cuteness, sexiness, selflessness, nurturing instinct, and emotional receptivity. However, this new Take will outline 10 more smaller things that I appreciate in women and look for in my potential partners. If I meet a woman who fulfills half of these things, then I will be very happy.

Starting from the Bottom...

10 Things I Appreciate in a Woman

#10) A Nice Butt

Pun not intended, but I am a man who appreciates the assets. And in this age of twerking, Kim Kardashian, and hip-hop, a nice butt is hard to find. Most people have it all wrong. It is not about the size of the butt -- in fact, a large one is actually unattractive to me -- but rather the shape, firmness, and build of the butt, like the lovely Kate Bock above. And while this may seem shallow, consider that it is at the very bottom (put not intended) of my list because I recognize that it is of the least importance, and that many women likewise appreciate a nice butt on a man.

10 Things I Appreciate in a Woman

#9) An Occasional Dumb Moment.

If this seems like one misogynistic thing after another, remember that I am purposely putting these things at the bottom of my list because I recognize that they are the least important. But regardless, I think that it is cute when a woman is just a little bit dumb at times. That is not to say that women should not be educated, or that an intelligent woman is not attractive -- these are both great things to aspire to -- but simply that it can be so utterly adorable at times when a woman has her occasional "dumb" moment. Think Hailey Clauson and the stereotypical blonde girl who participates in beauty pageants. You have to admit, it is a little cute.

10 Things I Appreciate in a Woman

#8) Glamorousness

Makeup seems to be frowned upon by a significant portion of males, with many of us preferring the "natural" look. My tastes, however, are opposite. I prefer a woman who is glamorous and wears a lot of makeup. If done correctly, I think that it can be very beautiful, and shows that a woman takes pride in her appearance. I would appreciate a woman who spends a lot of money on cosmetics, shops at Sephora, and treats makeup as a form of art.

10 Things I Appreciate in a Woman

#7) Lets Me Look at Other Women

There is obsessing over other woman and being a cheater, and there is being a red blooded male. I would never cheat, and I would always love my wife with all of my heart. I would never watch real porn, and I would never flirt with other women. I genuinely love women, and dream to raise my own daughters someday so that I can love them with all of my heart in the most selfless, devoted, and sacrificial way, but I am always going to be a red blooded male. I am always going to like to see women in lingerie and bikinis. I am always going to get the thrill of a 12 year old boy when the swimsuit issue arrives and when women's gymnastics is on television. A partner who is willing to turn a blind eye to this is one I would greatly appreciate.

To me it shows that she is secure, because she recognizes that it is meaningless, and that she knows how to pick and choose her battles. If I am a genuinely good man who works a sweat to take care of the women in his life, then is it so much to ask for that she allows this one thing to slide? After all, I would already have to tolerate her drooling over Ryan Gosling and reading stupid Cosmopolitan articles all of the time that vilify all men as cheaters. Sometimes meaningless fun is just that: meaningless fun.

10 Things I Appreciate in a Woman

#6) A Skilled Cook

Cliche, but I appreciate a woman who knows her way around the kitchen. The preparation of food really is a form of art in itself, and so a woman who can please my stomach is a woman who can likewise please my heart. More than that, it shows that she cares. A woman who is willing to cook is a woman who is willing to satisfy her partner; she is nurturing and knows how to take care of a man. It evokes a sense of maternal comfort, that no matter how difficult our day was, we can rely on the woman we love to be in that kitchen preparing a nice dinner for us.

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10 Things I Appreciate in a Woman

#5) A Nice Body

As a male, I am a very visual creature. And so, a woman who regularly goes to the gym and makes an effort to maintain a nice body is the type of woman I greatly appreciate. It shows that she still cares enough about her partner to want to look sexy for him.

10 Things I Appreciate in a Woman

Granted, I would not expect my wife to look the same way she looked at 20 after having children, aging, and devoting so much effort to being a loving mother and spouse. But I would not expect for her to completely let herself go either, just as I would not do that to her. To me, part of being a loving spouse would mean making an effort to look good and sexy for your partner, because you would naturally want to make them happy and bring them pleasure. This is part of loving each other.

10 Things I Appreciate in a Woman

#4) Appreciative

There is nothing less attractive to me than a woman who cannot appreciate the small things. From a bouquet of flowers to some candy and a heart on the bathroom mirror, a woman who cannot appreciate these things is a woman who does not deserve the big things either. Why spend thousands of dollars on jewelry, fragrances, and expensive furniture for a woman who cannot even appreciate the small things? As far as I am concerned, she deserves neither. But a woman who does appreciate these things is a woman with a heart of gold. It shows that she is grateful and recognizes that it is the heart that really counts. This is the type of woman that makes me want to spoil and pamper her more, because I know that she actually appreciates it.

10 Things I Appreciate in a Woman

#3) A Willingness to Please

Not just sexually, though obviously this is a huge part of it, but just in general. Is it so hard for women to make an effort to please their man? From massaging him at night to preparing his favorite meal and stroking his ego, there is nothing I love more than a woman who is willing to please her man. Again, this applies sexually as well. If your husband legitimately loves you, works a sweat everyday just to keep a roof over your head, and is a good father to his children, is it really that "degrading" for you to indulge one of his fantasies?

You cannot try a new position or make an effort to learn belly dancing for him or let him have anal once or whatever? What is so shameful about making an effort to please the man who loves you with all of his heart? The man whom you have become one flesh with? Has this feminist, Cosmopolitan "Orgasm First!" crap really become that prevalent? There is no shame in making an effort to please the man you love, and a woman who is mature enough to recognize this fact is a woman after my own heart.

10 Things I Appreciate in a Woman

#2) Age

Maybe I am biased after what happened to me, but if there is anything I have learned from this fiasco, it is that my preference for older women is that much more validated. Never has an older woman dragged me through the mud the way a younger one has. Marisa Miller above is a perfect example of the ideal older woman; to me, she is the pinnacle of beauty, the woman of my dreams. In her thirties, she has certainly aged gracefully, and still possesses a natural glamor and charm that most younger girls can only dream of.

With age comes maturity and confidence, the latter which I consider extremely attractive. An older woman is a woman with mastery over her sexuality, one who knows that she is beautiful and has no qualms utilizing that beauty to charm her man. She is the type of woman who will wear a thong bikini at the beach, dish out hundreds of dollars at Sephora, and treat her man as an equal opposed to something expendable. Thus, I greatly appreciate age in a woman, and from now on will always prefer women who are a little bit older than I am.

But Most of All...

10 Things I Appreciate in a Woman

#1) A Healthy Reverence for Tradition

From being a loving mother and housewife as in the very first image of this MyTake to being at least somewhat religious, I appreciate a woman who values tradition. Granted, not every woman is going to be like St. Mary of Egypt above, an ex-prostitute who spent some 40 years in the desert as penitence for her sins, but I appreciate a woman with a healthy devotion toward her faith. I am Eastern Orthodox myself, but I would accept a Roman Catholic, Protestant, or professing Christian of any sect provided that she can recite the Nicene Creed in good faith.

But more importantly, she has to abide by the values of religion and tradition, like being a devoted wife and mother, taking care of her children, and submitting to her husband provided that he loves her with all of his heart and does not abuse his position of authority. I would never be able to marry an atheist, because atheism to me will always be synonymous with liberal feminism, since both are products of the Enlightenment. It is not so much their godlessness that I am opposed to as much as it is their "progressivism." I can never be with someone to the Left. Thus, a woman who values God, faith, and tradition is, most of all, the sort of woman I appreciate.

What are some of the things that you appreciate in the opposite sex?

10 Things I Appreciate in a Woman
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