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I happen to take this matter personally because of what happened to me.

When I was 20, I met this 16 year old girl online on an adult dating app. We really hit it off, and we began conversing for a series of months. We both researched the age of consent in her state, and found that it was 16. I drove to meet her, and we had a date. Things got intense later, and we ended up having sex. It ended up only being a weekend fling because she didn't want to pursue a romantic relationship with me. I was heartbroken. We had a dispute weeks later, and she never wanted to speak to me again.

7 months later while at my college dorm, I made an idiotic decision to drive back to her state to apologize and win her heart again. I was met at the door by her father, who was unhappy to see me to say the least. I shook his hand and agreed to cut complete contact. As I went back to my hotel, the police knocked on my door and arrested me. Fast forwarding, I was sentenced to 3 years supervised probation. The collateral damages were just as bad if not worse, as I lost my EMT license and my career.

The reason why I bring this up is because if this were to happen to someone who was elite, had money, or had high influential status, they would have likely just received a slap on the wrist or not have been touched at all by the law.

Instead, an average everyday person, let alone a young 20/21 year old trying to pursue love at that time, had his entire reputation and livelihood destroyed.

These elitist bastards flew 14 year old girls on an island, passed them around as casual sex dolls, and they get away with it completely unscathed. It's sick.

Now that I am 31 and married, I look back in hindsight with regret and sadness I became so desperate. I was young and dumb. But I am even more angry at the devastation it caused for so many years when, meanwhile, elitists just continue to thrive and get away with high-profile crimes.

My crush/friend who I used to work with I would notice numerous little “accidental” touches between us handing something to or showing something with our hands such as reading along in the Bible showing me the line as being read and keep lightly touching my finger and I would always have to move mine before hers and never apologizing for any of these touches either. When we would be around each other if she had to get by she would lightly just bump into me or lightly brush against me instead of saying “excuse me” or trying to signal me to move. Lost track of how many all of these “accidents “ happened but I remember it happened enough times to where I started to play a game in my head to guess if she would find a way to “ touch “ me somehow lol. I’m aware confirmation bias could be in play here, but I swear I’ve never experienced this with any woman/girl before unless we were dating or was obviously into each other. When we would sit across or by each other in the break room her feet would touch mine and I would always have to move my foot first. Happened multiple times , maybe she was clumsy or naive. I was mid 20’s she was 19-21 years old and she is very religious not sure if those details matter.