You ever go to apologize to someone and then change your mind the second you start apologizing to them because they are an asshole?

[Finchie40]

I once dated a girl that broke up with her boyfriend for me , her ex was a guy I knew , but I never considered him a friend , and I was kind of shocked that he landed this girl, she was a beautiful blonde , and when I ran into them at a party , I said Hi to him and made a funny joke not realizing he was going to ball his eyes out over it , it was the silliest joke , I said did you ride her here on your handlebars? He was always riding his bike every time I saw him , so I was teasing him about riding his bike with her on the handle bars , He started balling his eyes out like he was this little kid , I said dude it was just a joke , why you taking it to extreme , i always see you riding your bike to places , I didn’t mean to hurt your feelings man, so sorry as I was thinking he is such a sissy , I guess I embarrassed him in front of this girl. I then looked at his Girlfriend like WTF is his problem? And I could tell she was very turned off by his reaction , So I apologized and walked away , about an hour goes by and his girlfriend approaches me and said that he left the party , I said is he still crying? She said yes he is because I dumped him , then her and I started talking more and then we made out. At the time I was making out with her I was all about her and wasn’t even thinking about him whatsoever, but after her and I hooked up , I felt kind of bad as to why my joke effected him so bad , so I called him to apologize again , and he said F you , and told me his girlfriend dumped him over it and called me a Fing asshole , I said dude you cried over a stupid joke , so I can see why she dumped your sissy ass, he kept saying F you to me and I said oh by the way I fucked your girlfriend last night as well , and she is now dating me and slammed the phone down on his ass.

[Flowersareawsome22]

Yes infact I apologize to an estranged cousin I have not seen over a decade after we graduate from highschool we had this big huge argument at her graduation party after that I never saw her again and we no longer spoke I forgot what the argument was about this took place back in 2010 . Few weeks ago I got invited to her brother's wedding so I went just to be polite I ran into this estranged cousin while I was serving my food in line she was in front of me and I apologize to her and her words were don't say stupid shit , I was shocked as she's a 33 year old woman but has not mature acted like an angry spoiled teenager when things don't go her way. I then told her well there's nothing more to say it is best we no longer interact later she goes chasing after me telling me hey we can go to the movies and catch up , I told her to her face ok this very weird and awkward situation , I told her she has not grown up from last decade I've seen her I did try to talk and fixs things like a grown adult and she acted like a spoiled brat. It told that she isn't worth my energy her face was priceless. After that I left the wedding because I just never fit in into my mom's side of the family it was always about my cousin.

My advice it's good what you told him in the end. You were the adult in this situation you apologize and try to fixs things like an adult and yet the guy acted like a stupid 13 year using profanity as insults my goodness and I tough only teenager acted that why. This guy is so immature no wonder his girlfriend left him. Yes immature childish behavior is a big turn off on my book. Yes the guys acted like a child. Childish behavior I tough only millennials guys acted that way cry babies and called their mommy to tell all about it. Did he called his mom?

[Finchie40]

He probably did , I don’t doubt it at all whatsoever , the guy was the biggest crybaby , I saw him cry over other things as well , from what other people have said to him , I honestly think the guy needs serious therapy or some shit because to be 21 years old and to act that way, was pathetic to me why I never considered him a friend , he was just someone I knew , I didn’t hate him until that moment. I realized he was a sissy that had no balls whatsoever, especially over little jokes like that , when that girl dumped him , it didn’t even phase me to be honest , as I walked away from them both , I thought to myself that he ruined his chances with that girl from acting that way , and I was right, when she eventually approached me to tell me she canned him for being such a wimp. She eventually approached said she knew I was just joking around and for him to take it to that extreme was her answer to can him. I laughed and said I honestly saw that coming , but I didn’t say anything , because it wasn’t my place to be in. I just knew he was pathetic. So her and I talked and hung out the rest of the night and we started making out and he wasn’t even a thought in my mind during that time , the next day one of my other friends’ called me laughing and told me he was crying to his friends’ about me , I didn’t want to be enemies with him so I decided to call him and apologize even though part of me didn’t want to , I just didn’t want to stir up drama considering I ended up with his girl. But when he started yelling and telling me F you a bunch of times , I said Fuck that and unleashed on him and told him to say that shit to my face and then I said and by the way I fucked your girl last night and hung up the phone. It honestly felt good to say that to him lol after that he never crossed my path again because he knows I would kick his fucking ass , As for your cousin , that is crazy she was acting that way to her own cousin , just goes to show just because someone

[Finchie40]

Is related to you it doesn’t mean you have to like them , I have a cousin as well that I didn’t get along with , because he was a pansie as well just like that guy lol

[Flowersareawsome22]

Seriously he wasn't over that joke my God , Don't be surprised that dude will be 30 years old married with kids and yet he will still be crying about. Is he special needs? Or did his parents ever get him tested? It's not normal days later still be crying about it to his friends. He could have just play it cool to his friends and say yeah that's messed up men. But crying at 21 years old I mean that's an adult he can legally drink now but acts like a 5 year old. Not even a teenager acts in such way. Sounds like the guy has special needs or is he autistic and his parents never got him tested. After all you considered apologizing and he had to do his part and yet acted like a spoiled 5 year old when he cries when parents don't buy him the candy he wants. My cousin she has messed up screw's she's 33 still live at my aunt's house but thinks she's the daughter of the queen of France. It was always tense between us ever since we were little girls we would pull each other's hair and fist fight each other. My cousin tells people I am jelly of her , I just laugh because I am debt free paid off my mortgage and cars , while she lives off my aunt's wallet at 33 . Yeah I just laugh because her live style is nothing to be jealous of lol. When you were little did you always fight with you're cousin? If you don't mind me asking when did you decide to cut off your cousin? Yes you are absolutely correct 💯 just because people are related to us doesn't mean we must tolerate abuse. My doctor told me the same thing after she check my blood pressure. Yes you are right we don't want to end up in the ER with high blood pressure all because of a. family member who doesn't even care about us.

[Finchie40]

Yea, I think he definitely is on the spectrum by how he acts , he was an only child as well , so his parents’ more than likely treated him like a baby , my cousin was the same way , treated like a baby his whole life , was always told he was perfect , I blame my aunt and uncle for the way he acts , it’s definitely a learned behavior, I use to get into fights with him a lot because he was a spoiled brat that was never taught the word No , I don’t even talk to him or see him anymore because he is weirdo. He still lives with his parents , and he is older than me , he is 49 now , and still doesn’t have a girlfriend or anything , part of me thinks he might end up killing someone by how demented he is. It’s funny that we have similar cousins’ I grew up with 2 older brothers and a tough Dad , as well as an alcoholic Dad that pretty much raised us to be workers and to stand our ground , I don’t like fighting , but I will fight if need be. Especially if someone crosses lines with me , I don’t hesitate to knock them the fuck out. Having 2 older brothers that instigated me to fight I guess taught me a lot lol , My brothers always said don’t mess with me and don’t get on my bad side , because they know I don’t back down , but again I don’t
Like fighting but I know how to defend and protect myself , I worked in the security industry for years , so part of my job was observing people which comes natural to me now , I am am pretty good at reading people , so yes those cry baby’s were definitely raised the wrong way lol

[Flowersareawsome22]

He is 49 ok I see you're cousin must be a momma's boy lol no wonder he is still single while everyone in his age is already married with kids. I tough that was the millennial guys behavior thing. No wonder why your cousin is single as a woman I can testify that we don't like immature behavior. Sounds like your aunt and uncle were never strict with him. Same with that 21 year old kid needed to get tested and therapy would have help a lot. And yet he wonders why his girlfriend choose a real men.

[Flowersareawsome22]

So you're cousin thinks he is the star of the show?

[Finchie40]

He thinks his shit doesn’t stink cuz he was handed everything in life and always got his way , when we were little kids’ him and I were cool with each other but as we got older I was blown away by how immature and childish he was , and yes my Aunt and Uncle catered to him , so I lost respect for him because of how the way he acted , it was more embarrassing over anything else. i did see him when my Mom passed away a few years ago and he seemed like he calmed down some , so I was being nice to him , I thought maybe he finally matured , but I was wrong , his true
Colors shined by the end of the night. , he was pouting about having to drive some family members home, crying that it’s out of his way , I started to get steamed because I thought that’s the least he could do while his mom and my brothers’ and I were grieving over the loss of my Mom , so instead of arguing with him , I said I will drive them home , no big deal , let alone I just drove 5 hours to get to my parents’ house , so as I was driving some of my family home , I was bashing my cousin to them saying I guess he never changed , still a whiney little bitch. After my Mom’s memorial was over, I haven’t see or heard from him since , I did talk to my Aunt and few times and she would praise her son to me like he was this amazing person , I told my Aunt straight out that she raised a spoil rotten brat and told her how he acted at my Mom’s memorial, she actually agreed with me and said his Dad is the reason he is that way. For my Aunt to confess that to me , I almost fell on the floor laughing

[NoDecision]

I think you played that badly. Not everyone has a car or good job. He may have had some mental problems like ADHD, or maybe even mild autism. I don't think you should have taken it so seriously yourself. Your "I fucked your girlfriend!" just threw gasoline on the fire. Shame on you! ☹

[Finchie40]

No he was driving , he has a truck , I was just being silly about the bike joke , I honestly thought he would laugh about it instead of crying about it , when he started crying , that’s when I was like WTF is he doing? Was he that insecure in front of that girl , so he cried? I was like sorry to joke around with you and walked away , shaking my head on how pathetic he was acting. So after that night , i heard from one of my other friends’ that he is telling everyone what i did to him , trying to play this victim when I honestly meant nothing by it , so i figured i better put a stop to this nonsense and just apologize to his little bitch ass , So when I called him , I told him I was sorry again for last night , and that I honestly was just joking around , so I am sorry you took it the wrong way , he then started mother F’ing me and tell Me F you , over and over , so I said say that to my face you little bitch and by the way I fucked your get girlfriend last night and shiny up on his ass , I then told my friends’ if I ever see that little bitch cross my path , I am knocking him the dick out , I guess words got back to him because I haven’t see or heard from him since lol

[Xawyx-2]

It happened more than a few times, still, I think it's always a positive thing to apologize, even when the person is being rude, I don't have to sink to that level.

[Xawyx-2]

Thanks for the MHO

[AngryCarl2]

That's oddly specific, but yes. And I hardly ever apologize so you'd think they would be more appreciative.

[Anonymous]

Yep a lot of time people get upset because they're not except from the boundaries i already established
Why should I apologize for sticking to my boundaries when I feel like it.
I already told you from the beginning, the first time I say no now you feel upset
I change my mind I'm not saying sorry to that

[Finchie40]

Yea some people take minor things and turn them into extreme things , because they are insecure or have very low self esteem about themselves , They can’t handle the truth so they try to justify it in other ways. When I feel wrong about something I said or did , I will apologize for my actions , but if I am attacked for trying to apologize, I will attack again and defend myself. Luckily I never ran into that guy again , for all I know he probably jumped off a bridge for being so pathetic.

[AvaRay]

Sometimes an apology isn’t about fixing things, more it’s about assessing if the energy deserves your respect..

If someone reacts like a child over trivial matters, why give them your time or remorse?

Boundaries, composure, n knowing your worth always come first..

Some people r just not equipped to handle the consequences of their choices, so don’t let them ruin your narrative..

[Zionne]

Absolutely, sometimes you start an apology and realize the other person isn’t worth the energy. It’s like your brain immediately switches from “I’m sorry” to “why am I even bothering?” and you walk away.

[Greek_goddess_Iris]

I changed my 'I'm sorry' to 'Sorry you feel that way'.

I kept being guilt tripping into saying sorry, and then I regret it. So now I amended my words a bit.

[Alex-Snow]

I probably have. Sometimes I have done stupid things

[Sal_Monella]

I don't apologize. I forgive their disagreement.

[TsundereMatrix]

It happened so often to me in high school. Not so much in my adult life anymore.

[MasterKS]

@TsundereMatrix same pinch!

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you and that woman deserved each other. You really think you were so coold don’t you.

[Finchie40]

Yes at that moment , I felt like I was the man , because she came on to me lol I was only 21 years old at the time it happened so Another reason I felt like I was the man lol

[SuperZonicGUY1992]

Liar! Liar! Liar!

Pants on fire!

I bet you made a racist joke

[Finchie40]

No racist joke lol

[SuperZonicGUY1992]

You are a racist! I bet that guy was black that's why you hate his ass you clown!

[Cheerfull009]

I only apologize when I am wrong

[robocop666]

Yes once and I fought with them later

[FateofOphelia]

Yes it happens to me

[Cidknee]

Been there!

[qwerty2469]

Nope.