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#1. How do you ask a guy what he wants from you?

Just ask the question. That’s really the best way to find out anything. You could play mental gymnastics or just be authentic and ask the question straight out. It may catch him off guard but the only way to find out where a relationship is going is to ask what they are looking for.
If they are not looking for the same thing you are, then why waste your time pursuing a relationship with them?
Be friends, but move onto someone who is looking for the same thing.

#2. What is the best answer to say to a girl when she asks what you want?

Dodge the answer everytime it comes up. The moment you laid down your feelings and wants, she is bound to screw you up.

Girls are 'seduced' by an element of mystery.

Let them keep guessing , wondering and one day out of intense curiosity they will eventually give up their ego and open up their vulnerable side to you.

#2 B)

Hello friend. A girl asking “what do you want from me?” is unsure of where you stand (she can’t “read” you ) and this is the way you should be in a relationship or when you are interacting with a “potential girlfriend” . Great job.

keep doing what you are doing , keep her unsure of your feelings towards her and this will attract her even more.

To answer her question just say something like “ nothing serious for now “ or “ i am not looking to get into anything serious “

You will be perceived as “higher status” and more relaxed.

the ones who push for a relationship are never the ones who actually get the girl ( more specifically the girl’s attraction ).

So keep up on being the cool guy that you are and keep on doing what you are doing. Answer her questions without pushing for anything , especially if you like her too. Her asking you this question is a big indicator of attraction.

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30F either DA or FA, want to say I’m some kind of avoidant. Based on life experiences, are these pretty tell tale signs I’m probably…well not attractive? I’ve always questioned how almost every pretty woman I’ve come across is always in a relationship with an equally attractive guy. When I was chubby younger, I thought losing weight would solve everything and it hasn’t. I feel like regardless of what anyone else says, I’ll always wholeheartedly believe attractive women have no issue finding a partner & they have life easier. I’ve been told I’m attractive by a variety of people for most of my life, even when I was chubby. I’m not thin, 5’7 women’s US 10 so midsize but I have that thicker thigh/flatter stomach build. The only time I get attention from guys I find attractive are on dating apps and that’s not telling in my opinion. I’ve been told this guy looked at me/this guy found me attractive from other people but the guy never makes it known to me. And there’s been very very few times where I would see an attractive guy making eye contact with me or at least caught my gaze but I just look away b/c I don’t see the point. I’m anxious/reserved but a lot of people with anxiety are in fulfilling relationships.

Last thing I’ll add was being bullied pretty badly as a kid, again I was chubby so I know this played a part. Worse in middle school, I didn’t have to be homeschooled but it still sucked really freaking bad. And in HS but not as extreme as middle school, HS was more mean girls if anything. As an adult at old jobs, I did have confrontation/clashing w/personalities too. And let’s not forget shit bosses. Since I’ve worked remotely for the past few years, I haven’t had drama with coworkers or mgmt. Let’s hope it stays that way, I’ve had to deal with toxic family members too but that’s a thing of the past.

I’M SO CONVINCED THESE THINGS DON’T HAPPEN TO ATTRACTIVE PEOPLE

By That, I mean Difference in Opinion

Conflict in different views and ways people see things

Here's a few examples:

"One girls Trash is. Another girls treasure" vs "get real girl, look at him!"

"Who cares , to me he's Hot" vs " Girl, you're Hot. What will think when they you with him?"

There's a common Urban saying that goes "beauty is the eyes of the Beholder" meaning what one girl finds attractive in a Guy isn't what the other sees. For example Brnda think Jake is Cute and eye catching. Yet her friend find Jake gross and a Creep.

Me and my friend have had similar age preferences for years and that was to stick to men our age. I’m 40, she’s 39. People have been telling us for years to date men who were several years older than us. This includes our parents, aunts and uncles, each other’s parents, family friends, church members, etc. she’s even had friends our own age tell her that she should be dating older men (or so she says). I decided to give it try last spring after my same age boyfriend who had two kids and massive debt dumped me for being “too good” for him (I supported his broke ass financially), and I can say my luck changed drastically. Current guy is 55 years old and we both agreed we’re stuck with each other. At the end of summer, I had a party and invited my friend (recently heartbroken about being dumped but a guy our age for a younger girl), my boyfriend, all of his friends and all of their wives LOVED her. Every one of them and myself all thought she was perfect for a friend of theirs who was looking for someone just like her, so we agree to try to fix them up (the friend had met her once before at a charity event we were working). BF’s friend is also 55, retired, financially secure, gets a pension every month, good Christian, still works part time, has his house paid off and is looking for a woman to spoil rotten. So we pitch the idea to his friend, and the friend’s response is “that girl is a catch! She’s a nice girl with a good heart, she’s doing something with her life and she’s ABSOLUTELY BEAUTIFUL! Yes, please fix me up with her.” I mention it to her and try to convince her to no avail, she won’t date him just because he’s 16 years older than her. I told her she needs to be dating men in their 50’s and early 60’s, not our age. She said NEVER. I told her then that she’s a stubborn asshole who’s throwing away a good guy. Opinions? I want to show this to her to make her realize this is true. Women have been marrying older men for years so it clearly works.