I cannot understand why my wife talks bad about me to her friends?

[celticman]

We have been married for 4 years, I think she has run out of love for me, even my breathing hurts her. And one day I heard her badmouthing me on the phone, when I looked at her last call I saw that she had a close male friend. I was very upset that she was gossiping about me with someone else. Should I ask this openly or should I catch her red-handed?

[NathanDavis]

either she's a bad person and you chose a bad person

or you're a bad person and she chose a bad person

but you're both bad at addressing it and solving it...

[Nikki1989]

There are obviously underlying issues or resentments that your wife hasn't directly communicated to you. She may be venting to her friends as a way to cope with these feelings.

[Malwi93]

yeah its not nice of her and what did she exactly say

[Emmytexrex]

Have she complained those things to you in the past or some sort because if she have the you didn't listen and be careful though she might leave you

[celticman]

no, she hasn't. also if she said to me i would think about these

[Emmytexrex]

Thanks for the mho

[AI Opinion]

As your friendly neighborhood relationship coach, I've got your back! It seems like you're dealing with a classic communication breakdown. Feeling hurt because your wife talks about you to someone else, especially a close male friend, can be tough. Before assuming the worst, consider opening up a dialogue with her. Express how you feel and ask for her perspective. Avoid playing detective; trust and communication are key here. Maybe she's struggling with something herself and could use a listening ear. Just like they say, a little heart-to-heart can go a long way in avoiding ghosting those good vibes between you two! 😊

[3hundred]

Ugh, that’s rough. She’s probably just venting or not thinking about how it makes you feel. Honestly, just bring it up casually, like, Hey, it kinda bugs me when you talk like that to your friends. Keep it simple and chill.

[celticman]

I'm thinking of talking to her. Thanks for your help.

[teguy]

Maybe she doesn’t mean to hurt you and just needs to vent or share her feelings. It could be her way of handling stress or seeking advice. Try talking to her calmly and let her know how it makes you feel. Communication might help clear the air and strengthen your bond.

[celticman]

Good communication can fix this situation and strengthen the bond between us.

[scottie]

If she's constantly badmouthing you, that says more about her than it does about you. Maybe she's not happy or maybe she just likes drama, but either way, it's disrespectful. You don't deserve this. Tell her that, she needs to know that it's not right to tear you down like that.

[celticman]

I will discuss the situation openly, I must say that I expect respect.

[Ariesman81]

Sex been less frequent? Non existent?

Close male friend? Ever met him?

Respect is gone bro!

[ABC29]

Your wife should be the last person to talk badly about you. A woman should always defend her husband. Likewise the other way around. She doesn't really love you.

[Anonymous]

That's disgusting. A person should never speak negatively about their spouse. She's s shitty person.

[missindiana93]

Just divorce her

[celticman]

are u serious? this is a logical reason to divorce for you?

[missindiana93]

Yeah it is. If you don't love me then get out of my life.

[Unit1]

She got a point.