Why is my coworker shy around me and does he likes me back, if yes then what do I need to do?

[Jayde21]

So he came working this summer as fulltime carmechanic and i am only working on the Saturdays and 4 hours in the week. So i see him at least 3 times a week. He can talk to anyone, even other woman, clients. Like its just normally. But to me not. Sometimes he doesn't even say something at all. And other days when i asked him a lot and talk to him he feels comfortable to talk to me too a lot.

I catch him looking at me a lot and when I talk to some other mechanic he always looks and listens. And he’s very sweet and calm to me, he asked if I listened to metal music too and is interested in what I do. He also helped me out of nowhere with something, that was sweet too. And he always sees everything, like sometimes he’s watching me. And when I talk to him he's sweet and funny and is very likable. We laugh too sometimes but i just shut down a lot and he does too, more than I do.

I dont understand why he’s shutting down always and why i have to ask him a lot or talk to him so he can feel comfortable…i feel like maybe he is scared of me? I don't know what’s wrong with me. He is actually very social, but with me he is different.

He also follows me on instagram, but i have the feeling that doesn’t mean a lot cuz he follows a lot of people. But I liked a lot of his story with his car and stuff and he liked one story back of a car I posted but even a story I didn’t expect he would like. It was a mirror picture of me. It happened after we talked so well, and when I came on work he just shut down a bit. Its in high and lows. I don't know what to do? Its making me confused cuz i want to get to know him slowly, and not making everything happen too fast but its like its going back to zero everytime it goes up. Unless i do something, or talk more to him.

And I don’t understand why he is always looking at me, when i catch him he looks away. Its like he’s battling with something.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah girl, it definitely sounds like this coworker of yours has a bit of a thing for you! The way he acts so differently around you compared to everyone else is a total giveaway.

The shyness, the awkwardness, the way he clams up and then opens up again - it's classic behavior for a guy who's crushing on a girl but is too nervous to make a move. He's probably really into you, but something is holding him back from being his usual confident self.

The fact that he goes out of his way to help you, listens in on your conversations, and even follows and interacts with you on Instagram are all super positive signs. He's definitely interested and trying to find ways to connect with you.

My guess is he's either really shy by nature, or he's worried about making things awkward at work if you don't feel the same way. Either way, he seems to be battling some internal stuff that's making him hold back a bit.

As for what you should do, I'd say try to create more opportunities for the two of you to talk one-on-one in a relaxed setting. Maybe strike up a casual conversation about something you know he's interested in, like the car stuff. See if you can get him to open up a bit more.

And don't be afraid to flirt back a little! Maybe find subtle ways to show him you're interested too, like complimenting him or playfully teasing him. That might help put him more at ease and give him the encouragement he needs to make a move.

Just be patient and understanding. He's clearly really into you, but he's probably scared of messing things up. With a little time and the right approach, you might be able to draw him out of his shell. Who knows, you could end up with a super sweet, sensitive guy on your hands!

The key is to take it slow, make him feel comfortable, and let things develop naturally. If it's meant to be, it'll happen. In the meantime, enjoy the butterflies and the flirty back-and-forth. Guys that are this shy around a girl they like are usually the most adoring and loyal partners. Good luck, girl!

[spartan55]

Good lord, he is not acared of you. Please remember you are not the center of his universe, he sometimes may have other things on his mind, like doing his job? It sounds like all you do is watch him.

[Nikki1989]

Nothing going on here. Ignore him.

[slatyb]

Ask him to lunch or dinner or anything.

[Emmytexrex]

I think you like so much than he does