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I had a girl “stage” a phone call to ditch me on a first date two nights ago. We met on bumble and she was very enthusiastic at first. But within 30 seconds of seeing me in person she ran off to “use the bathroom”. And she then staged a phone call from “her dad” saying he had a “flat tire”. From her body language I knew she was lying but a part of me really hoped she wasn’t. She insisted on giving me money for her appetizer I ordered. I then noticed 20 mins later she unmatched me on bumble. My suspicion was confirmed. I then sent her a nasty text message calling her out. I just hate being lied too. I don’t know if she got it or not. She might have blocked my number by then.

I never brought up sex or anything creepy at any point either.

I too was disappointed with her appearance. She was at least 20lbs heavier than what she looked like in her pics. I too lost physical interest in her. But unlike her lying cunt ass I have the respect just give someone the time of day if they drove out somewhere to meet me. I've been in that situation before and I feel like the decent thing to do is just talk to the person. We were in a public place after all.

Girls. Unless a guy is being directly creepy or rude, don’t do this to people. Yeah it’s uncomfortable but you can leave after the date. You are in public and you are safe.

A healthy relationship is focused on you and your partner and not giving a damn what other people think. But let's face it, most people worry about their reputation and having an ideal partner can be a reflection of your value and desirability.

Stereotypes single women face (gets worse as they age):

- too neurotic
- too feminist
- lacking feminine wiles
- doomed to be a childless spinster from the ovaries drying up
- selfish

Stereotypes single men face

- socially awkward
- creepy
- loserish
- gay (this is a bigger insult to straight guys than most women know)
- immature

I feel like both single men and women sometimes feel driven to dating to avoid these stereotypes. Admittedly I stayed in two long-term relationships because I noticed more respect among my colleagues, family and friends that I was seeing somebody. I was thrilled to change my FB status to taken. The most disgusting result is I noticed LOTS more attention from other women. I fucking hate that, because I'm loyal and was wondering where the hell these women were when I was single and lonely.

I'm currently single right now after many frustrating, money wasting, time wasting, effort wasting and heart wasting dates. But I do have friends with benefits going on. I do still get laid.

But it dawned on me a month ago the biggest motivator I had to keep dating was because I am sick of people judging me. My family is the worst, but my friends and colleagues have in the past too. Fuck what they think.