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i am an African lady, born and raised in nigeria, i am currently living in Canada though.
as an African lady, i am expected to respect men without gaining respect in return. i want a guy who believes in equality between a man and a woman, a man who would respect me the way i respect him. i told my family about how i want to be a lawyer, but their answers was like that is really good but dont try to gain a lot of money than your husband, let your future husband be the leader, i replied back to them saying "what if i gain a lot than my husband, is that a bad thing" and they all replied yes that no man likes a woman who earned more than him. i was talking to two of my friends, one was a guy who just came from nigeria and the other one was a girl that was born in Canada, we were talking about relationship, i told them about how i paid during a first date and the guy ( a nigerian) never called back, m y guy friend told me not to ever pay for food on a date that it is a turn off for a guy, and my girlfriend said i did the right thing. another situation occured when i told my cousin that i want a guy who believed in sharing house work and he won't expect me to cook and go to work altogether and his reply was that i would die single and old. a guy asked me out on a date, and when i told him that i was virgin and i wasn't going to have sex with him, he said why and i replied that i dont believe in sex before marriage, and wasn't because of a religion, it is because of a personal experience. i am really too much? do i have high standard, if yes how do i bring it down?