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He is twenty and he was overweight back than, loosed a lot of weight by now and he is really fine, an intelligent humorous and curious guy who never had a girlfriend but feels lonely for that.. His style even didn't scared me of, when we met at first, I knew we'd be really good friends to each other and I feel sorry for wanting to change his style but at the same time, he deserves to be himself while wearing comfortable clothes that fit him well. I really don't have bias upon a person's style and I accept him for who he are, but he's now old enough to have some responsibility for what he is wearing. His bust is like that of a woman with an A-cup. So I suppose it could be difficult to find clothes fitting his upper body. He wears t shirts from that time he was overweight and it does absolutely not look good.

When it gets to his lower body, he has beautiful strong and manly legs but always does wear his black sweatpants that even don't fit him well it sometimes looks like he pooped in his pants cause they slipping down. All of his long pants have a few holes that you can see and that ruin his personality completely. Also I worry for that smartass finding a job that doesn't care about looks.

I know you if you really like someone for who they are then let them be as they are. It's not like I don't know that, and I'm absolutely not embarrassed. I just want to see him happy in his own skin again. That style even doesn't fit his personality he said that is comfortable. But---my darling---why don't he wears sweatpants then, that fits him at least? He said because he didn't think about it when money arrives, it's all about alcohol, cigarettes, gaming and weed. So if I was going to buy him some clothes, because I really know he likes them as well, but had to spend my own money. How would you see it? Is it disperectful of me doing that?

About a month ago I was approached by a guy who I had seen for a while and he would always stare at me until he called and asked for my number. I decided to give him my number. We talked a lot, he told me he really liked me so he definitely seemed interested, I told him I was too. After some time he was busy with work and I mean he would text but not as much and I understood, but recently we went over a week without texting, so I decided to reach out to him again. He told me he was sorry, he had a stressful week because his car motor got ruined and he had to repair it. He finished repairing his car and I am currently waiting for a reply from him last time we talked was Thursday. I don’t like to spam him with texts because I don’t want to come across as clingy so I just let days go by without texting him. I just want to know if I should just stop texting him I know he’s busy and has things going on but I notice that If I am not the one to re-initiate texts he doesn’t and days just go by, I am just confused at the moment and I would appreciate your advice thank you!

@inspired by recent post on plus sized women in bikinis

{pics from my own swim wear last summer... sorry I didn’t understand zooming cropping and marking🤦‍♂️😬 bit I’ve he sent since ☝️😅}

Many answers were in my opinion self centered and and unrealistic.” I don’t want to see it so it is wrong”.

The illogic often being “ If our of shape, should not be seen.

Dont look? 🤔👀🤷‍♀️

Do you think I want to see a strangers butt cheeks in my face? I surely do not. Solution- I just don’t stare bc I don't know what I’ll see and do not want want to find out.
Problem.
Solved.

I’m just wondering... for ex A burn victim is fit in shape thin but you find their burns unsightly, do you say they should not leave their house?

I’m guessing you would not say this, most likely not THINK it... likely, if reasonably polite, will avoid staring. If you are enlightened you will be ale to look and see a person not scars.. few people will say “stay home forever. Maybe extreme narcissists 🤷‍♀️

So seriously, why can’t you do the same for people in Bikinis... Do you seriously think anyone not perfect -in your opinion- should walk around in a tent?

bikinis are cooling. That’s a big motivator -not simply showing off. why shouldn’t a large person be cool. No one knows why anyone is in the shape they are in snd who cares anyhow it’s not your body.

(let alone the fact being large doesn’t mean you will look bad. Inversely being thin doesn’t mean you will look good.)

Swim wear should be primarily about swimming. What kind of world Is it when where attire comes before the activity you are dressed for.

I think this seve dependence on aesthetic is spiritually bankrupt and 💯 demoralizing.

I can’t claim superior there bc I tend to avoid showing my body when I swim due to scars. Length I go to - it’s absurd.

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