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This is in response to this question below:

Let's settle the debate, which is worse, female cheater or male cheater?

My answer above question is of course that both men and women are equally scumbags when it comes to cheating.

Yes men generally have impulsive sexual needs. Yes women generally have emotional and attention needs. But neither have an excuse to cheat. It’s natural to feel occasionally tempted however both men and women can have the willpower to abstain. If the temptation is getting to be too much they can break up first and then do what they want.

However a better question to ask is who owns up to their cheating bs better when they are caught or feel too guilty and confess?

From my observations cheating men are usually A) sociopathic lying scumbags who feel no guilt (maybe sex addicts) or B) normal guys who got blindsided by lust and caved in.

The A guys can’t be trusted or forgiven. But the B guys will usually be extremely remorseful and guilt stricken. That doesn’t mean B guys should be let off the hook. But they will own up to their crap. They won’t blame their girlfriend/wife for their shitty decision even if they were upset with them earlier

However I find that women who get caught cheating will often try to gaslight their boyfriend/husband. They will say “oh you weren’t there for me” or some other crap. Not all women but many of just have egos that can’t accept that they are cheating whores. So they try to placate their conscious through mental gymnastics vs. just saying “I cheated and I was 100% wrong. You didn’t deserve that and I accept the consequences”. I just do not see that many women doing the latter.

Asymmetric romantic attraction is one person has feelings and the other does not. The person who has feelings isn’t thinking clearly because chemicals are (naturally) being released in their brains compromising their judgment. But the other person can see everything as plain as day because they aren’t attracted to them hence little/no brain chemicals.

So person who has no feelings has to make a decision on how to handle a person they have influence over. The moral thing to do is be tactfully honest with the other person (and do it early). But we don’t live in a moral world so the following usually happens:

Scenario #1: Man manipulates the woman into sex when she is thinking there is going to be a relationship. Worst case scenario he gets her pregnant and abandones her.

Scenario #2: Woman manipulated the man into thinking she likes him when she doesn’t. She does this for attention, favors, free meals, free counseling, etc (stereotypical friéndzone).

Worst case scenario is she is a gold digger. Yeah she has to give him up to him at the point but she gets a huge payout for faking it. She will likely divorce him and screw him over in alimony (and she likely cheated during the marriage). She never had feelings for at all. Just a good actress.

Now roles can be reversed at times. Some women do use men only for sex and some men do seek out “suger mamas”. Some men do friéndzone women for their own ends. However for is just not as common. However I will say it is at least biologically natural to want to have sex with someone even if you don’t want a relationship. However using a person for money, ego, attention, favors, etc is downright conceited.

Anyway I got in a long “debate” with a feminist on here who believed that men should be held liable if they mislead a woman into sex. But she had no problem with women taking advantage of men via the friéndzone or worse (gold diggers). Not kidding.

I argue that BOTH genders need to watch out for themselves.