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I have a guy friend that I’ve known since 2010. We were intimate briefly in 2016 before he moved away.. we’ve stayed friends for the most part. One thing I’ve tried to avoid is mentioning if I spend time with someone.. he’s had issues with other guys being nice to me in the past.. specifically if it was someone he knew. I was set up with someone by a friend and the guy ended up treating me horribly. When I spoke with my fmr intimate friend.. I told him thank you for always being someone I feel safe around and can trust. I didn’t say anything to him about the set up treating me bad to illicit jealousy.. was reaching out to a friend and saying thank you for always treating me with respect and being someone I can trust and feel safe around. We’ve been friends longer then any of the intimacy.. I’m just curious how guys take being told by a girl that they trust them and feel safe with them.. I’m grateful the friendship he and I’ve had has largely held together since 2010.. when he recently called me princess the other day.. that did catch me off guard when I thought he was joking when he’d said that and when I said you’re my loyal advisor.. he replied with.. I thought you were gonna say I was your king.. opinions helpful.. just curious how it makes you guys feel to hear from a girl that you’re not related to.. that they trust you and feel safe with you..

i definetely feel like i think about the future a lot, but sometimes i feel like it gets in the way of things i want to do now, and I don't know which part of myself to listen. for instance, i have a lot of goals and things i want to accomplish, the biggest being having a family and raising kids and being able to support them. as a result, i try really hard in school because i want to get into a good college to get a good job. i also try to stay out of trouble so that i dont ruin my chances of a good future. i also avoid relationships because i dont want a guy to get in the way of my set plans for the future.

but at the same time, a little part of me wants to experience hs and just the present in general. im so focused on good grades that i rarely go out and do anything with friends. it also stresses me out a ton and is simply no fun. likewise, i also want a boyfriend. i may have a shot at a relationship rn, but the future-oriented part of me tells me to forget about him! that he's only gonna get in the way of schoolwork, the chances of you even marrying him are slim, so he'll just be a heartbreak and a waste of time, plus its unlikely we will both go to the same college etc etc etc. i just dont know what to do.

if i forget about my future and focus on what makes me happy now, i may regret that in the future if i mess things up, but if i only focus on the future, i might regret that i did nothing fun in my younger years