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This guy that runs in the same circle as me has always Been very flirty with me and everyone has always commented on how he is interested in me. I always said I wouldn’t date someone in my circle because I don’t want to risk losing friends. One night we were out though a few months ago and we both got pretty drunk and things seemed to be going really well and he became very touchy and tried to kiss me and I rejected him because it was in front of everyone. I hung out with that group a few times after, but nothing as exciting as that night. Today I saw him for the first time in a few months and he came and sat by me and talk to me every chance he got. He even hung back from the rest of our group just to walk out with me. I’m not trying to jump in to anything, but I am curious enough to go on a date with him. How do I let him know I’m interested without making things awkward if that isn’t something he is interested in?

I personally think it is not acceptable to flirt with others while being in a relationship. I have the following arguments to support my statement:

A. The chance that the person you´re flirting with takes it seriously is relatively high. In fact, they might think they have a chance. If the s/o is faithful whats wrong with that? Well, this is science-based but the other person will try to pursue because they want what they can't get and it´s also proven that flirting only, causes a lot subconsciously.

B. Flirting is dangerous, it could slowly lead to more, without realizing one might replace his/her feelings. Humans aren´t like robots, being programmed and all.

C. I think it´s immature because it really isn´t that difficult to stay with one person.

D. A woman/man who flirts only with his/her s/o will be more desired and might create jealousy amongst others. I know this is a bit against A, but the difference between A and D is A gives a chance/flirts with those who desire him/her while D ignores the flirts and is only focused on their s/o.

E. Sign of strength (especially in this time where the majority is just easy) and perseverance when it comes to keeping values high.

F. The relationship between the couple strengthens immensely because ain´t no other person could interfere with their love.

G. Why risking it? Like what´s the point of flirting with others? There is no rational clarification for it. It has only disadvantages.

H. But I flirt for fun? There are other ways to have fun without risking a relationship.

I. One could be so loyal, but in my opinion, flirting decreases the loyalty a bit because one allows it to happen. One opens the door.

J. No matter how much someone trusts the other, self-esteem and/or trust will get damaged eventually. Especially when it happens often. Sadly it is uncontrollable and it has nothing to do whether someone is confident or not because if you care and love someone enough it will happen eventually. It´s inevitable.