As well known as it may be that V.D. is an overrated commercialized holiday, there comes a wondering of what the fuck singles can do on this shitty day where couples already obsessive about their lovey-dovey BS have even more of an excuse to shove their fortune in everyone's face. Being that the amount of my life that has accounted for actually dating vs not dating, I can understand a bit of both aspects. Combined, it doesn't even add up to two years of my life that I had somebody i was dating. I know the feeling of the dreamy love world. It feels great! And it's hard to connect to single people around you when your head goes above the clouds. I tried so hard not to let that happen to me. I didn't ever want to show off that I was in love when 90% of people around may not have ever had a partner in their entire life time.
But alas, I was stuck in the moment, knowing how fortunate it truly was compared to the single forever life I had come to expect. But again, what are some solutions one might ask? And maybe not just Valentine's Day, but on a daily basis with so much media being about getting this girl or guy and pulling apart people who have never tasted what it's like to go to anywhere with a partner. It took so long to find music, etc from high school up until now to find singles music and especially not involving a damn breakup! It's a huge reason I left my mainstream pop, rap and eventually screamo emo stuff not too long after in order to get deeper, more solid anti love stuff. Here's a list. I'll try to add if anything pops into my mind.
Music
I Hate Love Songs -GWAR
Many things by bands like Hammerfall is pretty bold, self improvement focused music.
I highly suggest metal along these lines to escape from the ever so annoying break up or love or songs with good lyrics until the "I think of you" part comes on. Metallica has some good self reflection music for sure with stuff like The Unforgiven and Shinedown of course has their Simple Man cover. If you are to embrace the so called #LoveYourself hashtag I've seen around this site now, metal and some rock easily get people away from the constant illusion of love and can be a great coping mechanism. Look into Nuclear Blast Records for stuff like Alestorm that are just plain fun like this one:
Metal is awesome and it's not very often that they are all lovey dovey. Excellent way of saying a big FUCK YOU to society for making so much bullshit about the concept of love.
In rap, Hopsin has False Advertisement, Ill Mind with all the different parts, etc that I'd say is nearly pro MGTOW. (I don't like MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way) 100%, but it has fair points sometimes).
SIDENOTE ON MGTOW! Be weary of where you get info on it as some of MGTOWers obsess over bashing women and have started to ruin a movement that is supposed to be about single men empowerment. Going into rants about why women are bad isn't what the movement needs to focus on, but rather society's BS ways when it comes to men and women. To single heterosexual women, if you want to get inside the mind that many angry men feel, as ugly as it can be, MGTOW sources show a lot. Try to understand it. It may be difficult, but there is so much of it single men embrace even if they have never heard of it. The same exact themes MGTOW says, whether really horrid or not, is discussed between men on a daily basis, so if you ever do come in contact with men with some sort of love interest or sometimes just in general, acknowledgement of what MGTOW and the red pill movement is can be helpful however re-pungent.
Anime
I can say without a doubt that this show needs to be watched by single people. This can be like our anthem show. Welcome to the NHK is amazing and deals with more than just being single, but several problems that both cause and go with it. Watch it!!! (If you are a single male, some of the quotes and scenes you'll see I can guarantee you will connect with. For single women, if you want to understand the male mindset, this can be an enormous help!)
Do not get thrown off by the first few episodes. This is a deep and even depressing anime but it is one of the only ones that can connect so deeply with those of us who are single and have always been left out of normal society. I loved Fullmetal Alchemist Brotherhood..... but I like this series better. If that doesn't say a lot, not sure what does.
Then of course, there are many memes and things you can do and see on this treacherous day so you can look past it without the depressing feeling of being alone. Know this. Relationships. Are. Not. Mandatory. For. A. Happy. Life. Get goals and achieve em! Partner or not! Marriage or not! Hell, why not consider using the day to bond with people of your same gender! Spread round the bro love and take pride of the bro code. And for gals, enjoy being a gal! Hang with bffs! Or if you are like me, enjoy your extra cash! And know that you aren't risking it on any possible illusions!
Know that sometimes, it is society and the fault of ways of people where we live that we don't have a partner or friends. People are often judgmental little shits. Selfish and not accommodating for any little difference. These people that often dominate society are stupid af and being anywhere near them is a waste of time and effort. Be strong and don't be intimidated. They desperately die for your respect. Give them none. In this case, even apply a Satanic rule. "If anyone hurts you, destroy them." You'll save yourself as well as others future trouble. Call out bullshit. Don't be afraid of being alone in the way you think, as Einstein and geniuses like him were often lonesome and misunderstood as well. Yet way smarter. Take the wealth of knowledge and wisdom over love, romance, society, etc anyday. Trust me, I think it's more than worth it in the end. If anyone pressures you to "get a gf/bf" tell them they are more than welcome to do the work!
Story Time!
Told my older sister that once. She said "oh just look for somebody else" I told her "ok, if it's that easy, YOU go out and find somebody who may be a good match and get them to me!" Ofc like most people "I don't have time to do that! It's not my job!" My response? "Ok then. You proved yourself wrong. Finding a partner is harder than it looks. So, STFU about it. Got it?" We have not had that sort of conversation since.
Second Story
My step mom once told me that being not in America, that there are better women and maybe I will find one. I told her up front, I am where I am to learn not to focus on finding dates and shit! She backtracked on what she said and was more than impressed with the answer.
So ya see, partners can be a pain in the ass. The whole concept of romantic love is. Say ok and watch as people around you rise and fall into their clouded head of illusion-ed love as they experience great dates and the cheating and heartbreaks that nowadays always seem to follow. Never trust that anyone is worth being a partner. Always prepare that anyone could turn out to be an asshole so prep for it especially when it comes to love, as vast amounts of money and time you do not want lost over something trivial like it.
When I dated the second time, this method helped a lot when we ended it after it was apparent I would not be back home for quite a while. I have not bothered to put forth effort into attracting anybody. Why? Because I know myself. I know my ideas about society are amazing and rare at least according to those out there that are smart. So, if anyone, man or women, wants to see a deeper taste of my mind, they are more than welcome to approach and see all it has to offer. And if they want to go further, sure, maybe I'll give it a chance....
What I am saying is, don't ever be so pressured to have to have somebody special whether on VD or not. Sometimes people in your surrounding area just will never understand what you have to offer. And when you ever get a chance to show how great you really are, if the world dares allowing to give the opportunity, it is up to you whether to take mercy on those who never gave you a chance. I have told this or similar advice to some guys on this site. They were more than happy with it! So there's already proof it people can in fact catch on! It it not too hard a concept!
A last note is that I entirely realize this a has a slight bent on helping single men. I am not a woman, so I can never fully understand the concept of one. It's difficult to speak from a perspective other than a guy and especially one who is considering dating other guys now.
So if any other ways to cope you can come up with, music, movies, etc, feel free to say so!
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