A lot of the single ones (including me) it seems, are having a hard time coping with being unattached on the one day of the year devoted to love.
Lets talk about how we can survive being single this Valentine's Day!
We imagine that everyone else is in a loving, committed relationship, or at least that they're out there, having a ton of fun dating, while we're alone in front of the TV in our fuzzy slippers plowing through a tub of popcorn.
You're not single because of any inadequacies or shortcomings within you.
Sure, it's great to meet that special someone and have their love and support day in and day out, but that isn't always possible, especially in this age of increasing isolation and alienation.
These days, a lot of us might be spending more of our time unattached than in a committed relationship, and for those people who find themselves alone on Valentine's Day, I offer up a few suggestions.
Being single is not a disease.
It doesn't help if you put yourself down for not having a date on this night. You're not a "loser" or a "failure" if you haven't found love.
Often, finding that special someone is just the luck of the draw. Instead of beating yourself up for being unattached, try to put things in perspective. Think about all the good things you have in your life and be grateful for those.
There's no substitute for self-love.
When you nurture yourself, you feel fulfilled. Sure, you might still want a partner, but at least you won't feel like you desperately need one. And, when you're filled with self-love, you'll be walking around feeling complete.
With self-love, you won't feel the burning need for someone else to compensate for the lack of love in your life. If you do meet someone, your relationship will be based on caring and sharing, rather than needing the other person to fill a void inside you.
Being desperate always backfires.
Desperation makes you jump at the first person you see, rather than waiting for the right person to come along. Love, even a real connection, isn't something you can force.
You may or may not someday find the love of your life, but it won't happen by trying too hard. Live your best life and be your best self and if the person of your dreams is out there, they may very well find you.
Rediscover the artist within you.
We were all creative as kids; it's just that some of us forgot how great it is to create. Doing art of any type is going to be incredibly uplifting and meaningful. Art is something that you can do just for yourself.
Being creative is empowering because doing art makes you happy. And, if you gain some mastery, other people will likely want to write, dance or play music with you. Creative collaborations may or may not lead to love, but they're fantastically fun.
Value your friends and family.
You have people in your life, right now, who love and accept you unconditionally, and who'll be there for you whenever you need them.
You may not have a romantic partner, but you do have love in your life. Be grateful for these relationships and put energy into keeping them strong, and you'll feel a lot less lonely on Valentine's Day.
Giving love fills you with love
Being a kind, caring, generous person will bring you fulfillment and a deeper sense of connection with others. Altruism is extremely rewarding. Always. You may or may not find your soul-mate while you're out there giving to others, but your life will be rich and filled with joy and meaning.
[Hey guys, I've felt terrible for being single for almost as long as I remember and I feel like, his is a topic people should talk about. Let's not forget about the single people out there, right? And also, with this take I've finally ended the period of being inactive on G@G! Enjoy Lovelies!]