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(By the way, I'm 14) I don't know how many boys would just show off about how they're talking to three girls at the same time, always obsessed with just trying to find a way to have sex. Like, I've seen already like two guys my age doing that, and the other people who I know go one-at-a-time, but they're always in-and-out of relationships. They're all absolute players. They're not even attractive themselves, and they're out here having high standards for other girls. They always tend to criticize the body first, though. When they'd gossip about girls, they'd always talk about how she's so fat, and she's not thick at all. Like, is that all you really value in a girl? I understand she's kind of airheaded, but commenting on someone's appearance, I believe, is so insensitive because it's something you can't change, and personality is so much more important in general. Of course, there is that large population of boys who aren't really getting into relationships at all because they're considered rejects by other girls, but the boys who are actually getting into relationships at my age: are they just in it for sex? Is everything just for sex?

I just witnessed this:

Two guys are friends. They're in the same circles. Not best friends, but close. New girl enters.

All three people are above average in looks though their morality and sexually-driven motivations are pretty suspect. They're all sleeping around a lot.

Anyway, Guy #1, the bartender manager goes out with girl first. It doesn't last long. But they're really into each other. Coworkers talk. He's been sleeping with the staff. He's evasive and non-commital. He's ghosted, jumped around. Some girls warn the girl about him (although some of their motivation is jealousy, as well.) But she's an independent girl, and she doesn't like being told what to do. And, she thinks she is/wants to be special. She goes out with him anyway. They hit it off. Apparently more than with the others. After a short time he asks her, "You wanna be exclusive?" much to her surprise. She is happy. "Yes."

But before things really get going, another third party [helps her out?] by showing her a pic of him with another girl. On a date in a lunch place. She gets pissed. "I thought we were exclusive. You're already sneaking around on me?" "No, that was before. Before we decided. It's over now." But she doesn't believe him, breaks up. Then quickly changes her mind, asks to get back together. He: "No, I don't like the drama." He's also apparently upset about her not trusting him, and listening to outside influences.

Shortly after, she gets asked out by Guy #2, personal trainer. They also hit it off. She likes him "Even more. He's a man, not a boy." Trainer asks bartender friend, "Hey man, you ok with this... if I date her now?" He doesn't say much. He doesn't want it to happen but feels he can't intervene. Time goes by, and now and now guess who comes back? Bartender: "I just want to let you know that I care about you. I want you back." Huh? "I was scared." Of what? "Of falling in love, getting hurt."