Not gonna waste any time with much of an intro about this Take, because there really is no special opening for it, so let's just get straight to the facts.
“You’re meeting the wrong women”
I think this is one of the dumbest things a woman can tell a guy. As if most people actually know they’re meeting the wrong person or enjoy it. Granted, there are some situations where people do know they’re with somebody who doesn’t really care about them or love them, yet they can’t seem to let this person go because they’re afraid of losing the relationship, but in general most people do not know that the other person is the wrong person upon first meeting them or knowing them early on. You usually begin to see that later.
Women also use this statement as a way to put the fault on guys for their pain or bad feelings from a bad relationship. As if they chose to meet “the wrong woman.” Ultimately it’s women’s way of trying to devalue what a man is saying about women from his experiences and things he’s learned about them. Basically trying to say: “you can’t listen to what this guy says because he met the wrong women,” even though they are very aware that they feel their own bad or less-than-great experiences with men should be seen as serious, important, or knowledgable and they know that people do accept it as such.
“I’m always tired/I’m so boring”
This is a retarded excuse I’ve heard from some women when I’ve asked them if they ever want to do something some time. It is one of the worst kinds of lies, especially when you find out later that she was hanging out with her friends or some guy she is into or just having sex with, or you overheard her telling someone in the lunchroom/parking lot/on the phone that this or that bar, restaurant, bowling alley, club, etc. is her favorite spot. Sometimes they will even get ashamed if you happen to be nearby or walk into the room and they know you heard that, which in turn means you now know she lied to you about always being so tired or being boring.
Listen. If you don’t want to hang with me, don’t tell me stupid shit like that. Give me something straight up like “Thanks, but I’m not really interested in that right now,” or even “I appreciate it, but I am seeing somebody right now.” Every time a woman can actually act like a mature adult with me and tell me what the situation is straight up, that actually gives me a lot of relief and I respect her a ton for being real and honest. Even if it might be disappointing at the moment, you still have the overall gratefulness for her no-bullshit truth. Cuz I have no love for a chick who is being sketchy about her life and hiding that she is having sex with someone instead of just telling you what’s going on so you can be on your way.
"You're just bitter"
There is a lot that men are saying concerning women and what women can really learn from or simply be informed about, but choose not to hear it because - as broken of a record as it sounds - their pride does get in the way and keeps them wanting to write every guy off as “bitter,” an “incel,” etc. Women actually have a lot of fear of what men think or say concerning women, that’s why there is enormous opposition from them any time a guy begins to speak. Even simply ignoring men tells a lot about how much it bothers them because they feel they should tune it out.
Just because a man is saying something about women doesn't make him a bitter misogynist. Women would just like him to appear that way so they don't have to take him seriously, which is pretty pigheaded. In reality they are losing out on a lot that they really could learn from a man's own knowledge and experiences that are prompting him to say what he's saying in the first place.
“Nice guys aren’t really nice”
Women are often trying to fire back at “nice guys” with the argument that they aren’t really nice, are just fake, only looking for sex, etc. Which can certainly be true. But ultimately women know very well that when many guys are talking about being a nice guy that they’re talking in general about just being a decent guy with no ulterior motives. So nowadays women are trying to use “nice guys aren’t really nice” as an excuse to cancel out all self-proclaimed decent men as fakes because they don’t really want a decent man and are attracted to aggressive, disrespectful type guys. Yet when women are having any hard time getting a guy and they begin to feel hopeless and start proclaiming “I don’t get it. I’m a nice girl,” “I’m not a bitch so why aren’t guys interested in me?” or “I’m a nice lady, so why don’t guys like me?” no one is saying she can’t really be a nice woman because she’s saying she is.
I’ve heard all the stories from females about why they don’t want decent, “nice” men: they dated one who turned out to be an asshole, controlling, abusive, etc. Which is not to say that this doesn’t ever happen, but it feels like an excuse to me from a woman because she really likes badasses instead.
“You’re generalizing”/”Not all women are the same”
The truth is, generalizations are very real and can be very true, for all groups. The problem is that people don’t ever want to face that. Black, white, Latino, man, woman. Hell, we all even generalize our own groups, but get angry if someone outside that group does it. If generalizations weren’t true then even businesses would never be successful. It just is what it is.
In the case of women, they don’t like being generalized because they don’t like the very real fact that men do learn or understand things about how they are. Even though women generalize men all the time - and some generalizations about men actually are true - but when something is said by men about women “in general,” that’s when women want to feel offended and use the tired retort that “not ALL women are the same”/”You can’t say that about ALL women.” When women are talking about men, or talking against men, that really does not bother me, because sometimes those things really are true. What I’m more concerned about is, can you handle it when someone else is talking about your gender as well? Cuz most women can’t. They talk about how whiny men are for countering generalizations or “misandrist” statements about them, but no one kicks up a fuss like a woman when the same thing is happening to them.
Yet oddly, women never disagree with positive “generalizations” about their gender or ever dispute them as untrue. You would never hear them saying things like: “Not ALL women are focused on commitment and relationships,” “You can’t say all women mature faster than men, that’s sexist.” But when it’s anything detailing less than perfect things about their gender, women don’t want to hear it and want to tell you that it’s wrong.
I think it’s sad when a message about the opposite sex has to be wrapped with a “not generalizing/not all women…” ribbon just to put them at ease, when we care less about doing that when we talk about men.
“Lol” (In text when they don’t want to answer something honestly)
If you’re a guy and you’ve ever been texting with a female you were into, and maybe she was into you too, you may have had an experience here or there where you ask her a more serious question about herself or you make a more serious statement after you two have gotten a little more comfortable, but she doesn’t reply or answers with “Lol” because she doesn’t want to be straight about it.
For instance, maybe you guys are texting and you say something like “Maybe you’d like to go to (this or that place) some time,” or “You think you wanna do that some time?” and suddenly you don’t get any reply back. And it’s worse if you’re using a particular messaging app like WhatsApp, Instagram, or Facebook Messenger where you can see that she read your message but didn’t reply. So you find that strange, and then you try something else, sensing that something is up. You then send another message saying something like, “Unless there’s somebody else you wanna go with,” and that’s when she replies with “Lol,” or maybe nothing at all again even though she read it.
This is another terrible form of dishonesty from a female. If there is someone else she’s into or having sex with - and I say this because a lot of women in today’s times are not in an actual relationship with a man, they’re just having sex with someone - and not being straight about it, then you need to cut it off right then and there. Any text you get back with “Lol” or any other reply that is not an answer or response to your previous question or suggestion is almost always a red flag.
“I don’t really use social media”
I’ve actually had a few females lie to me about this before or say they don’t use this or that app when they really do, they just don’t want you to know about it. Hell, there have been times when I’ve even seen them on their phones right on a social media app that they claimed to me they didn’t have.
Even some time ago when I asked one of my co-workers if she had Instagram because I was interested in her and wanted to connect, she immediately lied and said she didn’t have it, which made me terribly uncomfortable to know I was being lied to right to my face. I knew it was a lie because some time before that, I looked her up on Instagram - as I do with some people I know so I can find out if they want to connect - and found her page, but I didn’t want to add her or anything without first hearing what she said and getting her consent.
Other common lies from women about their social media are: “I do have Facebook/Instagram but I don’t ever really go on it,” “I do have Snapchat but I only ever use it to keep in touch with family,” or “I never use any of that stuff.”
If any other guys have their own thoughts or experiences they want to share but sure to let us know in the comments.
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