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When I say “dangerous” I don’t mean a guy making some asshole remark like “fuck you cunt” or something else when a woman (politely) turns him down. Him showing some frustrated anger is NOT getting “dangerous”. It might not be appropriate and even creepy. But there is a fine line between him being sour grapes vs. being a legitimate threat.

I’m talking about a guy seriously getting physically violent, legitimately threatening violence or aggressively stalking afterwards. I’m talking in person stalking too (not stalking on social media). Like showing up at the woman’s house or at her work.

I do believe men like this exist. I make zero excuses for them and it’s twisted/wrong. But I also believe they are very rare (less than 1 out of a 1000 men). Instead women get paranoid because of ANECDOTAL evidence. They read a story online or hear of friend of a friend having a legitimately scary incident. Then they get this bogey man complex about men in general.

I say this because I think this paranoia has made women progressively worse in the last few years at tactfully rejecting men. They rather play games, ghost and of course friend zone and rationalize it to themselves out of a misplaced paranoia. When in reality all they have to say is “hey thanks for approaching me but I have to be honest I’m not interested”’. While no guy likes hearing that the reality is 99% of men out there will accept that and move on.

But why is it so hard for women to be (politely) honest? I think the so called rise of the “incel” community is partially attributed to men being frustrated about not getting direct communication from women. The game playing does more psychological damage then they realize.

Most men can take rejection especially in our mid 20s or older. We are used to sticking our necks out and taking the risk. It unfortunately comes with the territory but it is how it is.

I’m having a girlfriend for the first time at 32, she’s 42. Due to the fact that she’s my first girlfriend I’m very immature and naive. I think like a 12 year old in terms of romance. I don't know if the good outweighs the bad. So in this question I’m gonna share with you the pro and cons.

Pros
1. Food: always cook for me on her days off. Even took the time to learn my favourite recipes.

2. Budgeting: She’s very smart with her money. We both have over 50k saved up with no debt. We have it planned to buy a house together and pay a low interest rate.

3. Open-minded: I can talker her about almost anything and she’s a good listener.

4. Very sharing: She let me borrow her car for 3 weeks when mine got totalled. Every time she gets bonus pay she’s willing to spend on me.

Cons

1. Has temper: Every time she has to explain something to me a second time she screams me. We end up fighting and not talking for days.

2. Conceited: She believes she so hot that every man in the world wants her. Her exact words “I have a big ass and D cup breasts. Every guy wants me”. Women should be confident but this is ridiculous.

3. Verbal/Emotional abuse: She tells me that I’ve never had a girlfriend because I’m socially awkward & weird. And how I’ll never find anyone better than her. And that the only reason she agreed to date me is because I’m handsome with muscles. And if I stop working out she’ll replace me.

4. Shallow: She refuses to date guys her age and only wants younger men. Nothing wrong with dating younger, but refusing to date your own age is dumb.

5. Male friends: She only has 4 female friends, the rest are guys. She even admitted a couple of them want her. She has a male bestie Alex who she texts almost every day. Whenever Alex has a girlfriend he barely texts her and she gets mad. She agreed not to hang out with guy after I told I’m uncomfortable, she said I’m “just being jealous”.

Is this how a relationship is supposed to be? please give me the best advice with your comments.

There's a story idea I had, where my character was a magical entity, who travels to a different city in North America every month, finding good, caring, wholesome, but unhappy people. 90-99% of the people in any given city are not good, wholesome, or caring, let alone all of those things but down on their luck or unhappy, so finding them is hard. Whoever I could strike up a conversation with, and discover that the pass the "good person" trials through conversation, my character would grant their one greatest wish, as long as it was limited to themselves or close family members or friends (no wishing for world peace or for dinosaurs to come back or anything).

The first guy, was small and sickly, like pre-serum Steve Rogers. He had sickle cell anemia or something. After discovering he was a truly good and humble man through conversation in a bar, my character initiated the final test and asked him for $20. He gave it to me, so the next day, he woke up with perfect health, as well as a body better-than-new. He was now fully healed and his mother no longer had to pay for his medical bills.

The second person, was a short pale blonde woman who was kind to others, but hated herself and her looks severely. She was more pragmatic and jaded in life than the first man, but she was still a good person; her self-hatred just kept her kind side a little supressed. After talking to her, my character asked her for $20, which she eventually gave a "what the hell" agreement to. The next day, she woke up 5'11" with 34DD's, a gorgeous clear-skinned face, and a perfect gym body, like a supermodel or Olympic athlete. She looked in the mirror and started crying with joy.

My character then continues the search for a new deserving person to grant another wish to. If the person is bad or undeserving, it can cause unforeseen chaos and trouble to the local world around them. So they have to be good, deserving people to mitigate any negative consequences to happen.