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I’ve been seeing this cute guy around at work.
He works in a different department to me but I see him on breaks, he sits with other people from his department. He is normally deeply immersed in his phone. I’ve noticed a few times that he will gaze at me and when I look at him, he will smile at me while holding eye contact. I’m always the one to look away first (because I am super shy).

A couple of weeks ago, we were walking towards each other in the corridor. He did his usual gaze and smiled at me, then I said “hiya, you alright?” As I passed by. He smiled even more and looked down. A week or so after that, I walked past him while he was eating his lunch and I looked down at him and smiled.

Since then, I’ve noticed we don’t really have those interactions anymore. When I see him, he usually looks in every other direction apart from mine, even when he walks right past me. I have seen him occasionally glance at me when he is in the distance.
We did have another occurrence when we walked towards each other. He smiled and said hiya very quietly and walked off. Today, I was stood behind him at the water fountain waiting for my turn. He turned around, said “sorry” really quickly and walked off. I think he may have left real quick but I was too shy to look at him.

Please help me because I’m starting to feel like I’m repulsive and that he is uninterested.

A few months ago, a new guy started at my place. He works in a different area and he caught my eye. I noticed that sometimes he would look at me and smile.

I only see him about 3 times a day in the canteen (for morning break, lunch break and afternoon break). He sits at a table with his colleagues and he is normally looking at his phone.

For some reason, I’ve been paying more attention to him recently and we will glance at each other across the canteen but I always look away first.
I’ve noticed that he will gaze/stare at me and then smile. I’m always the first person to look away.

Sometimes it will catch me off guard, for example, I looked up and saw him staring/smiling at me while I was chatting with friends. I decided to do something about it. The other week, he was walking towards me and we smiled at each other. I said hello to him and he smiled even more, and looked down.

A couple of days after, I looked down at him while he was sat eating and we smiled. Ever since then, he has been avoiding eye contact in close proximity. When he walks past me, he will turn his head away and won’t look at me.

Then yesterday, we were walking towards each other and I looked up at him and smiled. He looked at me, smiled and said “Hiya” in a soft, quiet voice as he walked off. Is he just shy or something? Could he be attracted to me? Not sure why he is purposely avoiding eye contact. We do look at each other from a distance but it’s only a quick glance and not very often.

30F and I don’t think I’ll ever shake my core belief that any decently presentable lady has no prob finding a man, a pretty girl well forget about it. I’m very reserved, I’ve always been but was *friendlier* in my early twenties, now I’m borderline antisocial. I always blamed growing up overweight as the reason why I didn’t get attention from guys/wasn’t popular, I lost weight in my early twenties and have maintained my weight loss since (still slim thick). Again, this weight loss didn’t change the attention I got from guys & I was a bit more sociable back then.

I’m told I’m attractive (from all kinds of people for most of my life & not only family/friends) & the only times attractive guys take initiative are on dating apps. And apps are absolute trash as we know, guys I’d find attractive in person have never made it known to me directly. It’s always that RARE occasion where I think one is maybe making eye contact or someone I knew pointed out a guy was looking at me/word of mouth this or that guy found me attractive etc. Then on dating apps, I’d have guys that I initially considered *potential* eventually showing interest in me (asking out etc) after I got to know them a bit more and I just find a way to dip out.

Im so conflicted. I feel invisible & when a guy appeals to me in some way on a dating app (which should be taken with a grain of salt), I just can’t be bothered for whatever the reason is for me at that moment. It’s apathy/anxiety/self sabotage/confusion etc?

A random guy I keep seeing will hold eye contact when our eyes “meet” and he will smile at me.

Im always the first one to look away.

When I look at him from a distance, he doesn’t really look at me all that much, but when he is walking towards me, he will gaze at me and smile at me.

I see him every day at work, except he works in a different department and there is very minimal chance that our paths would ever cross.

He started back in July, and I have noticed that most times we are in the same vicinity, he will make eye contact with me. When I look back at him, he holds eye contact with me and smiles at me. Sometimes it catches me off guard. For example, I was walking out of the canteen with a couple of my friends and I was behind them. He was walking towards me and I happened to glance at him quickly, and noticed he was gazing and smiling at me.

We finally spoke last Friday. We were walking towards each other. He smiled at me and I said hi. He smiled even more and we just exchanged pleasantries as I walked away from him.

I've also noticed him staring in my direction but not directly at me.

I know it’s not much to go on, but what do you think?