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When I was younger, if I met a girl, I was either immediately attracted to her or it was never going to happen. She did not need to open her mouth and say one word for me to know. I just looked at her and I knew I was physically attracted or I knew I was not physically attracted. Of course, physical attraction is only one part of a relationship and there was much else to discover.

As I got older, I actually dated a woman to whom I did not feel an immediate physical attraction and after dating for a few months, I realized that I was strongly attracted to her. When I looked at her, I realized that most other guys would not consider her to be attractive, but I thought she was cute and I wanted a physical relationship with her. Ultimately, the relationship failed but not because of the physical attraction.

Have you ever dated anyone to whom you did not feel an immediate physical attraction? Did that attraction develop over time?

I recently got back in touch with an old female friend of mine after living far away for a few years. I asked her about her city as a potential place to move. Always had feelings for her but she was with a guy for the last 7 years. Was always a strange friendship with her acting hot and cold all the time.

I was happy that when I asked about traffic in her city she gave me more information than I wanted to hype the place up. Even agreed to show me around if I made a trip. She oddly told me she hated dating out of the blue which I basically ignored and din't pry much into. She dated a guy during the summer so didn't talk to me much. I understood but it bothered me he was like me in uncomfortable ways.

Tried not to think about it but then I would see her mom of all people in my store. She even stops me once to talk about why I'm back in town. She talked to me for a long time, I had to walk away after 15 minutes being on the clock. Didn't know she even knew I moved. When the boy is out of the picture I get re-intouch with my friend who had changed her phone number (don't know if its related to the guy).

She's more bubbly this time giving me her work schedule, smiley faces, and telling me to tell her when I come down. Even admits her old boyfriend dragged her down (they never made sense) but because our relationship was always weird I continue only responding platonic and neutral, even tho I still like her, because I'd rather see her in person before throwing anything flirtatious her way. I didn't want to make my move to her city about her and get it in my head we'd be good frieds or more as I half-suspected she was just lonely working 7 day weeks between two jobs.

She suggested some date like actiivities for us to do if I went down but still haven't because of an awful work schedule and uncertainty over her. Now she doesn't talk to me at all after I got in my feelings and let it slip I still have feeling for her.