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A girl I know in my friend group have been flirtous with me for a longer period. She has a boyfriend, but he rarely joins our parties etc. And on these parties she seems to flirt with me. Examples are her talking to me more than others, offering me a zip of her drink several times but not others, kissing me on the cheek (one time even on the neck during a hug), and when when I left a party (first one) she left not long after. Hugs me more than others etc. Never behave like this when her boyfriend is around..

What is happening? Is she into me?

Last night me and my girlfriend Jess went to a house warming party. Jess kept giving lots of her attention to another dude. She kept sitting him down and giving him massages with a massage tool. Jess seemed so intrigued with him it seemed like she was following and wanted to keep talking to him. Even when he was talking to others she kept watching him.

Later that night when he was leaving the party Jess jumped in front of him and yelled “you’re not going anywhere”, And was hugging pulling him back into a chair and gave him another massage. I felt uncomfortable but didn’t say anything because I didn’t wanna start a fight. I also feel like it’s double standard because a few months she got mad at me when I was talking to another woman for 30 minutes.

I know if I mention this to her she’ll break up with me. I’ve talked to her before about how I’m uncomfortable with her male friends and she threatened to break up.

I have had at least 75 first dates as a result of online dating, and a few were horrible (pictures not current, lied about age, etc.) Most of them weren't that awful, but we just weren't a good match. When I got some experience with rejecting a lady, I eventually decided that the best thing to do was to walk the lady back to her car, no good night kiss, no hug, tell her that I enjoyed meeting her, she seems like a nice lady, but I don't think we're a good match and I wished her good luck with her search. That stopped any expectations from developing and avoided the appearance of misleading her in any way. Maybe that isn't how she wanted to hear that message, but I thought it was better than taking the easy way out by texting or simply not calling her again.

If you were the lady on one of those first dates, how and when would you want that message conveyed to you? If you were the guy, how do you think that message should be delivered?

(Yes, I know that it isn't entirely up to me to decide whether to have a second date; a woman can reject me after the first date, and I have had that experience. I'm just asking about this from a guy's perspective. If you want to ask about how a girl should reject a guy, you can post your own question.)