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Long story short, my ex didn't believe our daughter is his, dna test came back and proved it. We were still being respectful to each other during the whole time but barely talked since he didn't want to get involved until a dna test.

Now he wants to be involved which I appreciate for our daughter.

At 7 months pregnant I moved back home (from us to Europe) to support my daughter and make the best life possible for her having no support from him. I informed him about everything.

Its been almost 2 years since we broke up , saw each other and maybe talked like 5 or 6 times... until recently when the dna came back.

He wants to come out here and spend time with his daughter which I am actually happy that her father wants to be involved. We live in a one bedroom apartment and he wants to stay with us. I told him I would like him to get a Hotel room. we had barely any contact for 2 years I just dont feel comfortable with him staying here. He can spend as much time as he wants over here but I would appreciate him not to permanently stay and have a room to get back to. We never lived together and I just kinda like having our own little place for my daughter and I.

He got all mad at me saying he is already spending a lot on plane tickets and he can't afford a hotel as well. He says I would be keeping him from his daughter as he already lost so much time. I dont want to stand between them but dont want to compromise our safe space for a man I haven't seen in 2 years.

So to me it’s not a big deal because people typically spend a couple of hours together once a week when they date, and in this case rather than say three hours once a week you can spend 3-12 hours for one day a month. The numbers can be basically the same but I know frequency can be important to some people.

Now when I say once a month, I don’t mean that you can only strictly spend time together once a month, just that the intentional time spending would be once a month and then if you run into each other at other times, that’s fine.